Ballerific Relationships: 3 Ways To Land A Baller – blogged by @niksofly

The idea that BALLERS are only interested in a certain type of female is ridiculous. Every man has various things that attract them, from the way a girl smiles to the way she walks and dresses. It’s normal for them to be just as attracted to the witty, reserved female as they are to the “pros”. While a fatty and slim waist attracts the best of them, other qualities are factored in.

 Have you ever seen a super fine civilian and his lady is less than stellar? You search to find one nice thing to say, but all you come up with is “she has gorgeous eyebrows”. It’s the same way with BALLERS.  Yes, he may date females or be seen in a public with them, but commitment is a totally different ball park.  I have a few friends that are very successful men. The girls they bedded in college versus those who they married are totally different females. Not only does attraction change, but attraction isn’t always physical. I have a few tips that you can use to land you a  BALLER. I’m not saying it works 100% of the time, but I’m not saying it doesn’t work 100% of the time either.  What do you have to lose?  

First things, Be Confident.  Own You. By that I mean, if you are the girl next door, cool. If you are a bit chubby, cool.  If you feel you are unattractive, be the flyest , whitest teeth having, pretty eyelash batting girl out. Whatever you may perceive as a flaw or point of non –interest, accept and own it.  Once you get pass your initial confidence assessment, make sure you are always pulled together and confident. No it doesn’t mean that you have to be that girl that beats her face to capacity and parades in 6inch heels just to pick up a to go order. However, it does mean that you should be well groomed and unbothered. Confidence is your calling card. Men love it. Nothing attracts a BALLER more than a woman that can own the room. Find you a signature scent and wear it. Leave the body sprays for the kids. You are a grown woman. Your scent says a lot about you. Don’t get the current “hot” perfume. Research. Find a scent that matches your personality. When you walk by him, it should catch his attention. Once you get his attention, let your mind seduce him.  Your best characteristic is your ability to mentally spar.  Be mentally sexy. There will always be a prettier or finer woman, but how you view the world-your thoughts, beliefs, opinions, those are the things that separate you from the pack. I suggest you educate yourself, formerly or informally; but whatever path you choose, you should explore and learn.

Secondly,  Be Successful. Oh! You thought that you just had to be pretty, huh? Yeah. It works sometimes, but a sure way to garner attention of the BALLERS you want is to become a BALLER yourself.  Not only will you be provided the lifestyle you feel you deserve, but you will be able to keep it if your relationship goes south.  When you are successful, you level the playing field. You erase the liability stigma and demonstrate that you are, in fact, an asset. Success trumps any aesthetic features you may feel you lack.  You feel like you are too chubby, but chubby bank accounts win over slim waists every time. Remember the girl with the pretty eyebrows I referred to earlier, she was the financial advisor for a firm. She has never been the prettiest, but her success opened the door for her to meet her BALLER. Her mental sexiness closed the deal.

You should also be willing to Build.  When in doubt, get a man with a plan. No, this isn’t the quickest way for you to “come up”, but if a “come up” was all you were looking for than you misunderstood any of the blogs I have written.  Everybody wants the life, nobody wants the sacrifice. I’m not instructing you to find a candidate from The Committee To Struggle For Eternity (TCTSFE), however in life, if you are privileged to meet someone with goals, good income and a viable plan, consider yourself blessed. Many of the BALLERIFIC COUPLES you see today didn’t start off as BALLERS. There was a journey to get to the point that they are at now. With hard work and dedication, they are living the life they had dreamed. If you aren’t willing to build, then you don’t deserve the BALLER.

-Niko Rose