Ballerific Relationships – “Am I Being Groomed For The Next Man?”

After one too many failed relationships, do you think that you are being groomed for the next man? A sure sign of this is if you can truly say that you have learned something from him about men or about yourself that could potentially apply to your life that prepares you for the next man that comes along.

Forget about all of the negatives and let’s focus on the more positive things that you could have taken away from this situation — such as a life lesson, something you value, something that the future wife in you will later thank you for. After a relationship has ran its course, keep in mind that each of you should leave with something. There should be something of significance that you can pack up with you as you make your exit. If you are reluctant to take something away from it, then you may want to consider asking yourself “What part of the game did I miss?”, “What should I have learned from this so that it doesn’t happen again?”. Acknowledging and understanding this equips you for your next challenge.

During my many conversations with men, I’ve heard them use the term “mold”. This in which makes [us] feel inferior. How does a man feel that he is capable of molding me into the woman he thinks I should be for him? Women too make statements amongst girlfriends like this all the time, “I made him what he is so he could be a better man for her.” and “She should thank me”. Sounds very familiar right? In turn, why are women so bothered by men being ballsy enough to actually say that he took part in a woman’s career status, physical, and or spiritual growth? And might I add, some of these men are doing a fine job at it. They too should be able to upgrade you and do a little “tweaking” here and there. From the importance of good etiquette to how to properly tie a tie. The list goes on. Some women don’t realize how much of a good catch they are just because of something they took from the last relationship. Some men are man enough to pick up where you are lack. And this goes to say that if a man isn’t adding to your life, he is most certainly subtracting form it.

When you are dating, class is always in session. Many things are like a trial and error until you finally get it right. Remember that it is much more gratifying to be able to say that it didn’t work out but you learned so much from him than to be left with absolutely nothing.