Ballerific Relationships – Are You A Side Chick? By @chann._

Over the past five years the dating era has changed dramatically.  I have realized that “guys” and some “women” do not like to put titles on relationships.  They would rather let things happen or go with the flow.  Which really means, I don’t want to be with you but I don’t want to let you go either. You’ll find more people having multiple relationships rather than cheating now a days ( from what I have seen). It makes you wonder, why doesn’t anyone want an exclusive relationship anymore?

After having a few  long talks with the opposite sex and listening to artist like Trey Songz, Wayne and so forth it hit me.  The men and women that people look up to are having un-exclusive relationships and making them sound so good. For example Trey Songz new album “Trigga”.  So everyone is trying it.  Now don’t get me wrong I do not feel the rappers and singers are to blame.  Women have a huge part in this as well.

You have your hoe’s and strippers that will give a man what ever he wants as long as they get what they are looking for as well.  Going up against them and being a woman of morals  is very difficult! I live in Atlanta where the ratio to men and women are already unbalanced and now I have hoe’s to had to the fuel?

With men and women having no morals our generation has been destroyed.  No longer is it easy to just let things flow or trust your partner.  Now we ask ourselves, it’s been a few months why aren’t we offical? What is going on? If you are a man or woman that has to ask your self this.  You are officially the side chick.  Now that does not mean that your partner has another main chick either.  This simply means your partner is having fun and has multiple partners. They enjoy how their life is going and your position in it so why change it?

It  is then that  you have to make a change if you want better results.  Some women/men feel staying the side piece will be worth it in the long run, but it doesn’t always work out that way.  If your partner has multiple girls/guys want makes you think that one might not stay a little longer than you or do better than you.  Then you’re the one that ends up hurt because your man/woman left you to be with the other side piece that was putting in more work.  Now if you change up your ways; not be so available as usual.  Very short on the phone and text.  Not so cute and loving like you usually are or change up your usual routine that he/she is use to. That person will start to notice these changes after a while but this can go either two ways.

One, your partner questions you asking why you aren’t doing this and what’s wrong.  That’s when you hit them with your reasons.  Tell them since you don’t want a relationship I’m not going to put in the effort as if we are in one. This will help them to find out what it is that they really want.

Second, the partner could completely not care and ignore your attempts.  I’m sorry to say if this happens.  The guy or girl was never really that into you and it’s time to cut your loses.

What you continue to allow, will continue on.  If you are a side piece, hurt, or confused make a change to better your self.  No one deserves to be anyone’s opinion.