Ballerific Relationships – Friends With Benefits: Too good to be True or Perfect Scenario. By: @milagreee

A friend with benefits is someone that you are generally attracted to, you have a good time with but you do not want to pursue a relationship with that person but you do engage in sexual relations. Either you or he or both of you aren’t ready or don’t really want to commit for whatever reason. There are people that feel that a friend with benefits just isn’t possible for a woman. They think that women are unable to separate love and sex. There are others that feel as though it is perfectly normal for a woman to feel desire and lust for a man and are able to have sex freely without the strings of a relationship.

Granted, while I believe that some women aren’t capable of separating sex and love, I also know that there are women that want to have this carefree sex. Who says that women aren’t allowed to have and act on their sexual needs? I don’t believe there isn’t anything wrong with a woman wanting to have a friend with benefits.

First of all, you have a friendship with a man that you trust enough to sleep with. It can be someone you go out with and end up in bed with, without the “love” that is traditionally supposed to happen. You have a friend ship with someone that you can confide in and have a good time with. You might be at a point in your life where being in a relationship is the last thing on your mind. Whether you are trying to steady yourself in your career or you just got out of a long term relationship, you still desire sex and you still desire the arousing touch of man. A friend with benefits is pretty much the perfect scenario for you.

A friend with benefits is actually more beneficial to you than a one night stand. Aside from the scary things that could happen when going home with a man you don’t know, a friend with benefits is someone you’ve come to trust as you would any friend. Even though you aren’t in a committed relationship, you are in some sort of relationship/friendship so there has to be a type of trust involved. You don’t know a one night stand from a hole in the wall. Unlike a one night stand, you guys are able to laugh together, go out together and ultimately enjoy each other’s company for what it is, without getting messy and confused about the direction of this relationship.

When you have a friend with benefits, you have ultimate freedom. There are no strings and no one gets jealous and stalkerish. (I shall insert a clause for the psychos here) It is perfectly normal to be the kind of woman who cannot separate love and sex. If you have a jealously tendency, tend to get attached easily, always think that sex and love go hand and hand you might want to rethink pursuing this sort of relationship as it might just come back to bite you. But if you can have a friend with benefits in a healthy manner, go for it.

Do remember to be safe about it, because although he might be your only friend with benefits, you might not be his. Also, keep in mind that at any point in time, if he finds a woman that he wants to commit to, your friendship must revert back to just that, a friendship.