Ballerific Relationships: How Not To Lose A Baller; Get Your Head Game Right- blogged by @niksofly

The Committee To Struggle For Eternity (TCTSFE) , is that you player coming across the Himalayas? Nah, it couldn’t be. “You ain’t ‘customed to going through customs, You ain’t be nowhere huh?” I could tell. Your responses lack depth and logic. I’ve talked a great deal about individuals being equal, building together, bringing something more to the table, being ballers themselves, but  because I use the word #Baller  that seems to go over the heads of the “my parents couldn’t read so neither can I” crowd. The site is called #BallerAlert. Let’s think on that, shall we?

Moving along, landing a Baller isn’t rocket science. They are accessible and find different things attractive or desirable. Across the board, each time I ask my Baller friends about must-haves, the one thing that they always mention is the “head game”.  That is not negotiable. It is a very needed and expected facet of the overall package. Some will let you slide on being Betty Crocker in the kitchen. Others do not care if you are Martha Stewart around the house, but the one thing for certain that is a non negotiable requirement is your head game. It has to be on par with the best of them. Yes, you look good. Yes, you are always on point, but the question still remains, how is that dome looking?

And if you think I am referring to oral sex, you are part of the population that should not reproduce. I am referring to your viewpoints; the way you process things. I am talking about your intelligence. As I have stated numerous times, men are attracted to various aesthetic values, but the one thing that is consistent in must-haves is intelligence. No one likes a dumb, pretty lady. Men can tolerate a bad chick with great sex, but when the next woman comes along that is more beautiful with a vagina that can do summersaults, the pretty chick with great sex will be replaced.

What is your stance on the world? How do you feel about the current state of foreign affairs? Can you articulate your thoughts about the woes and highlights of society? Can you at least read and comprehend? There is only so far hearsay can go into a conversation. What do you know? The most educated and intellectually sophisticated individual is still ignorant to something. Are you willing to learn? Can you offer sound advice or at the very minimum process a problem to weigh its pros and cons?

As women we spend a considerable amount of time perfecting our physical that we neglect the one true asset that is ageless and unequivocally beautiful- our mind. You can always get Dr. Miami to create you a “better” body, but what a plastic surgeon and money can not do is cultivate your mind (rather provide you with the desire to do so). That is something only you can do. Put down the VIP parties (not totally, we all love a good time) and pick up a book (and I’m not talking Erotica). Instead of hitting happy hour religiously every day, take in an exhibit. Experience different foods and cultures. Travel. Engage in meaningful conversation. Learn about YOUR history and culture. Teach yourself something new. I’m not saying do not work on the physical you, but spend the same effort cultivating the intellectual you. There will always be a prettier woman, but how you think is what separates you. Stop worrying about screwing him and learn how to make love to his mind.

-Niko Rose

( And yes, I realize this is geared towards women getting their sh!t together and not men. That was my intentions.)

About niksofly

I don't write to appease those that are unsure of themselves. I write to create a space for thought and conversation.

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