Ballerific Relationships: Is Your Man on the Down Low? – blogged by: @proudlylauren

After watching Miles tell Amber he was gay last night on LHH Hollywood, I couldn’t fathom the pain and shock she felt. Imagining the love of my life, someone I mapped an entire future with, reveal that he’s had secret feelings for someone else is devastating. It seemed to be even more troubling for Amber to deal with the fact that people in their past had accused him of being gay before: shouting “everyone was right” shortly after he told her, and not long before she ran outside and collapsed. So, to avoid your very own VH1-style sidewalk meltdown, I present to you some of the signs to look for if you suspect your boyfriend, lover, or friend, may be interested in the same sex.

Birds of a Feather Flock Together

Let’s be honest, our closest friends are close to us because of the things we share in common: similar styles, same political beliefs, same religious beliefs etc. I’m not saying best friends are exactly alike, however if your man begins seeking solace, and becomes close with another gay man, it may be because they have sexuality in common.

Wandering Eye

If your man is gay, he has a natural attraction to other men, no matter how hard he tries to suppress it, he likes what he likes. You know how straight men are helplessly hypnotized by any girl with a nice ass when she walks past? See if you catch him ignoring the women in the room, only to catch a glimpse at the same men you’re sneaking to check out.

Online Courage

We all know the internet gives people an extra confidence boost, so check his online behavior, as he may feel more comfortable expressing his sexuality there. There are actually a lot of social media apps created as a safe haven specifically for the LGBTQ community. If you find that he’s a member of these sites: obvious red flag. Instagram and Twitter, can even serve as flags: look at he who he follows, and fills his timeline up with, pay attention to the pictures he’s liking, or tweets he’s favoriting.

Stranger Danger

Ladies think about how cool a guy is with introducing you to his female friends that are just friends, and how uncomfortable he is when you meet a female that he had anything more than a friendship with. If your man acts that way with his guy friends: doesn’t want you to meet them, keeps you at a distance, makes sure you all don’t have conversation etc. there may be something going on.  

Admire from Afar

Whenever there’s a big cookout he avoids the men shooting dice or playing basketball., and gravitates either towards you, or only the people he knows; ultimately anytime there’s a social setting with you around, he doesn’t shake hands, socialize and meet new people, but instead sticks by your side, or other people he knows very well. Examples like these may signify that he is uncomfortable around groups of heterosexual men, this could be because he doesn’t want his girlfriend to observe any attraction that may be there, or maybe being around fine men makes him sweat just like us women, whatever the reason he stays far away.

Now by no means, is this a surefire way to tell if your man is secretly homosexual, and I don’t advise you to start surveying all of his friends on their sexuality. However, if you have noticed any of the before mentioned signes, and have a genuine concern, I challenge you to sit your man down and and have a conversation. Understand, just like for Miles, the revealing process may not be that easy though, so try and be as comforting and supportive as possible. If you all have any other tips, or advice on how to tell if your man is on the down low, please share! If you are a member of the LGBTQ community, looking for someone to talk to or support on coming out, there are plenty of places out there but the national hotline is: 1-888-843-4564.