BALLERIFIC RELATIONSHIPS – LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIPS

Finding the right person for you is tough these days. This is evident as sites such as Match.com and Twitter.com have become popular dating services (I was joking about Twitter being a dating service but some people treat it as such). Often, people have a hard time finding someone in their own city. Then out of nowhere, you meet someone. They are everything you want in a mate. However, you live here and they live there. Nonetheless, you two are very much into each other and want to be together. Question is, how do you have a successful long distance relationship?

Can You Hear Me Now?
With today’s technology and phone plans, it is very easy and affordable to talk to anyone in the country. Communicating through phone is essential to a long-distance relationship. There are other avenues such as social networking sites, but they are not as personal as a phone call. There’s a certain comfort level that people have from hearing their loved one’s voice on the other line. Remember, your mate isn’t with you, so the only thing they have to hold on to is your voice. Even better, Apple’s iPhone 4 allows for “facetime”. You can communicate with each other while being able to see each other. You don’t ever have to miss your loved one’s smile.

Note: You can get “facetime” with Skype also.

Our Time Together, Our Time Apart.
All relationships require quality time. That is quality time together and quality time apart. When you’re together, whether it is on the phone or in person, your attention and time has to be about that person. Your greatest enemy is distance and so you have to make the most out of the time you do spend together. On the other hand, when you’re apart, you have to take that time to focus on you. Get done what you have to get done. Hang out with your friends. Do the things you want to do. Do not spend time stressing about what the other person is doing. That will drive you insane. Being able to manage your time will help your relationship.

The Move
As the relationship progresses, tough decisions have to be made. The most important decision that will have to be made is “making that move”. Yes, someone is going to have to move to ensure that the relationship succeeds. Question is, who is going to make that move? The answer to that question is relative to the people who are involved. There are many factors that can impact that decision. Factors include: education, careers, family, finances, etc. There is no clear cut answer to who should make the move. That is up to whoever is involved. Nonetheless, for a long distance relationship to work, it can’t be a long distance relationship forever.