Ballerific Relationships- Love By: @milagreee

What is love? What is a healthy relationship? Many of us stay in relationships out of pure comfort or because we feel as though starting over would be impossible and dread the idea of jumping back into the dating pool. Dating is difficult as it is, and when you’re in a comfortable relationship it is hard to jump ship. At the bottom of your heart, you know that the person that you are with is not the person you are meant to be with. Im not talking about butterflies and fireworks, because lets be honest, those only exist in the beginning of the relationship.

After that honey moon phase starts the trials and tribulations where you actually figure out whether or not this person is for you, for the long haul. There will be ups and downs and not everything will be flowers and candy. There will be issues that as a couple you would have to deal with. There are people that you just arent meant to be with. There are people that despite your biggest efforts, you just cant get along with regardless of how much you love them.

Leaving people that are creating a toxic relationship is the only healthy thing to do. I know how hard it is to leave a person that you love, how hard it is to start over and how hard it is to start from the beginning. It is even harder the longer that you stay in an unhealthy relationship.

The point of love is for two people to come together as two WHOLE people and become a united force. The point is to become a power couple in which you can encourage and support each other. Before you can be a whole person, you must love yourself. Without loving yourself you will not be able to fufill a healthy relationship. You must be whole in order to be come a couple. The side effects of being in a relationship in which you are not whole is that one person can become dependent of the other person. A co dependant person can be dangerous to your well being and all they can do is become toxic to your relationship. They depend on you for everything, including life. They remind you that they dont know how they would live without you. Love doesnt tell you that they cant live without you, love doesnt black mail you into staying in a relationship you dont want to be in. Thats abuse and manipulation.

This defeats the purpose of a healthy relationship. Being in a healthy relationship is rewarding. It pushes you to be the best person that you can be. A healthy relationship is something that makes you feel as though your significant other is a part of you, it makes you a whole force working together to accomplish what you want to accomplish. Love cares about what happens to you. Love allows you to have issues and work through them. Communication is key to keeping a healthy relationship. Respect each other, support each other, trust each other. All of these are ways that you can ensure that love stays in your relationship.