Ballerific Relationships – Love and the Headless

I can remember a time when giving head was taboo and rarely talked about. Once rappers and singers made it popular, I saw a vast change in men’s opinion on oral sex. Not only were they getting, they bragged about their skills giving it. Using social media and text messaging to ‘talk the talk’. I asked my Instagram followers would they be able to be in a committed relationship if oral sex was removed from the equation.

The majority of my followers said no. One even asked , “how could you be committed to someone and NOT give them head?” What if that person doesn’t know how to give head? Then what do you do? Do you teach them? Do you move on? Or do you cherish the REST of the relationship without it? I mean seriously, if you let THAT be the reason you leave someone, what was your relationship based on to begin with?

Here’s my take on it… If I meet a guy and everything is hittin, but when it comes to it he’s like a lost puppy down there, I’ll do what I can to coach him. If even then he can’t get his act together then I may have to rethink some things. For my oral sex is far more satisfying than actual intercourse. So for me commitment is going to be next to impossible. I have to be completely in love for it to be acceptable, but honestly I’ve never had to wait long.

Men crack me up, though, because they are quick to tell a female to make sure her pocket book is clean is she wants gone down on BUT fellas let me pull your card for a minute… You better make sure your baby powder fresh if you want me to get anywhere near your your happy place. I can accept a little mustiness but you better excuse yourself to fix it if I have to address it. I mean I’m only here to keep it real. No double standards please.

Some people can make exceptions here and there but some can’t. I know a guy is in a relationship with someone who will NOT under any cicumstance give him oral sex. In this case he takes the relationship for all the good that it has to offer BUT has a side piece specifically to provide him with this ‘service’ (as he calls it). Listening to him talk about his ‘special relationship’ was comical. He spoke of her as if it were her civic duty to suck and swallow. I asked him did his woman know about her and he said he’s almost sure of it but as long as she doesn’t bring it up, neither does he. I told him, ‘Whatever works for you bro’ and we toasted to a new era of ‘committed’ relationships.

So where do you stand? Does your version of ‘commitment’ have special stipulations?

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