Ballerific Relationships: Right Person, Wrong Timing

“What’s the perfect girl if it’s not the perfect time” — Big Sean.

There’s timing in everything and we’re the generation that doesn’t understand that. Or I should say we’re the generation that realizes it when it’s too late. These days, we spend our time trying to make life fit into our plans instead of letting life guide us. It takes a certain level of maturity to understand that you’re not in control of every aspect of life.

Growing up, we see relationships all around us. The idea that a relationship is a part of life and something necessary becomes the mindset of many of our peers. This creates a pressure inside ourselves to figure it out. The pressure becomes so much that we throw ourselves in situations that could be avoided. We never realize it till it’s too late because in the moment all we care about is being the person who finally got it right.

Not everyone can be “the one.”

The hope that we finally found “the one” creates a habit of putting up with the wrong things for too long. We fall in the trap of feeling like we have to make every relationship last as long as possible. We don’t believe in trial and error anymore. Looking for the most in every situation takes away from the experience that we could be enjoying. To many people this may seem pointless and a waste of time but there’s a lesson in everything.

Appreciate the moments while staying aware of the message.

People come into our lives for a reason. When you meet someone, you never know what will happen and just how they might impact your life. In hindsight, every past relationship or situation has helped me become the person I am today. You could be the best person for somebody but if it’s not the time for that then it will never work. We all travel our own paths and even if it’s the right time for you accepting that it’s not the right time for them is part of the growth. We don’t have to fight so hard every time to prove to the other person that we’re the one for them.

Be aware of your own journey before you try to influence someone else’s.

The phrase “if it’s meant to be, it will be” never made sense to me until recently. I used to think that was something people just said to make themselves feel better but there’s a truth in it. Lately I’ve been realizing that I go through everything I need to at the perfect time. I believe in trusting in your journey more than anything. The fear of never finding “the one” causes us to put that faith into every situation that doesn’t need. Some people are here for the moment and when the thrill or experience is over then it’s time to let it go. Figuring this out allows you to enjoy more moments and take what you need from the situation instead of waiting for it to end just to grow. You can grow as you progress instead of waiting till after to take everything in.

We’re not meant to be able to predict when we will find “the one.” That’s part of the process. When two people meet that are ready for each other it will happen naturally. We’re not meant to convince people that we’re the perfect person for them. It has to be a self realization that grows into a mutual understanding. Don’t fault the person and believe that when the time is right everything will fall into place.