Ballerific Relationships: She Doesn’t Want The D

I know, I know… Thank me later. But you are most definitely welcome, my dawg.

Because to be honest, a good many of y’all are completely clueless… Or maybe a lot of you are in some sort of masochistic cult and enjoy the emotional pain of constant rejection. If that’s your thing, no judging here. But if it’s not, and you’re lost… pay attention. 

1.       If she wants to make time for you, she will.

This applies to every situation in her life, including you, sir. If a woman wants to spend time with you, she simply will. She is not always too busy. She is not always too sleepy. She does not always have too much work to do. Now every now and again things do come up and she truly can’t see you… like when Scandal or How to Get Away with Murder comes on. Starting January 29th you will most likely get turned down on all Thursday evenings from  9-11pm until the Spring finale. This is obviously a completely legitimate excuse. BUT, if she steps out on a Thursday during her shows for you, you know it’s real!

2.       She will always respond to you. 

When a woman likes you, she is literally waiting on your call or text. One the most exciting things to a woman is a potential love connection so she is dying to hear from you! When she does get an alert on her phone with your name attached, she is not going to forget to text or call you back. It may not always be immediate, but she will respond. Studies have proven women respond to the men they like 100% of the time unless she is mad at you, and even then she is still likely to hit you back eventually. But trust, ainno forgettin’, bih. *Plies voice* 

3.       She is never solid in her answers when you try to make plans with her.

Everything is a vague “we’ll see” or “ok sounds good.” She never gives dates, times, or places.  Basically, she doesn’t want to go so she is not going to give you concrete confirmation just in case something better comes up. Have you ever seen a girl post that infamous (and overdone) quote “Don’t make someone a priority in your life when you are only an option in theirs?” As annoying as that quote can be after seeing it floating on your timeline 3628746238 times daily, it’s true… and it’s true for men, too. Don’t be an option, boo! You really do deserve better. 

4.       She never, ever hits you up first.

You always initiate the conversation and are constantly using the classic “Hey stranger” intro. She never reaches out to you to see what you are up to or if you want to do something together. She doesn’t and probably isn’t ever going to because she is not thinking about you. She is thinking about someone else. She did hit him up, though.

5.       She doesn’t seem as interested in you as she initially did and you don’t know why or what you did.

You actually may not have done anything at all but here is most likely what happened. Either she was initially attracted to you and after time has passed, you just didn’t quite turn out to be what she wanted… or she initially wasn’t even ever really that interested in you but wanted to give you a “try.” By “try” I mean she thought maybe you could grow on her but after hanging out with you she has now decided that you are not “the one.” You are the weakest link. Goodbye. 

If this list sounds extremely relevant to the situation with that girl you’ve been after for a minute but she ain’t giving you the time of day, she doesn’t want the D. It’s just that simple. I know women can definitely be complicated at times, myself included, but if she is doing 1-5 then you should probably stop making an effort. Actions always speak volumes louder than words. Think about when you aren’t feeling a woman… there’s not much that can be done to change your mind, is there? Not much can be done to change a woman’s either. She is not playing hard to get. She just doesn’t want the D.

Wellllll… at least not your D. Sorry.