Ballerific Relationships – “Singleship”

I have a question for you all: How many of you are in a relationship? (Raise your hand, please. I know I can’t see you, but you can see yourself.) Wow, this is so refreshing. Look at all the beautiful, hopeless romantic readers we have here today. I love it.

Aren’t relationships wonderful? I mean, think of all the great things you gain when you’re in one.  You gain a second version of yourself.  As I pointed out in my book “Good Men Do Cheat,” relationships are supposed to make you feel like you have another you on your side: someone you trust, care for, and who is there for you the way you would be there for yourself.

But most people, especially women, don’t receive all the blessings a relationship is supposed to bring.  This leads me to my next question: What is your definition of a “relationship”?  (Yeah, once again, I’d like you to answer this question honestly.) Here are some definitions of relationships from the minds of men:

1. Someone he can count on.
2. The person he trusts.
3. The woman who will take great care of him.
4. A great wife (who cooks, cleans, and provides sex). Well, that’s your job as a woman (from a man’s perspective, of course).
5. The best follower/ego stroker. Meaning: follow his every lead no matter what (ego). Ego is key to a man. You have your intuition (which gets clouded by love from time to time), and we have our ego. Without the male ego, we’d just be cry babies (women, if your man cries to you, his ego has been broken down!).
6. A great mother to his kid(s).

Now, allow me to introduce this thing I call “singleship.” It’s when a woman is in a relationship with herself! Yes, I said it. You are in a relationship with yourself!

You have a man that you cook for, clean for, and have sex with when he wants it, BUT…YOU ARE STILL ALONE OUTSIDE OF THE WORLD HE HAS CREATED FOR YOU!

You see, men tend to create this world (let’s call it Mars, lol) where he will place his “girl” just to keep her safe and sound from all the evils in the world! Haha, his evil!

This world becomes something that you get comfortable in. You begin to believe that this is normal and where you should be. What a great man you have. That’s singleship.

Let’s go into it deeper. Can I give you a few examples of “singleship”? Hold on now, because you may catch feelings behind this! You may discover that you are no longer a part of normal society. This may cause you to overreact. You may experience a lack of brain function, unable to breathe on your own….Death….of character, of course. Please read with caution. Take deep, slow breaths and try not to blink so fast.

1. You cook alone. That’s singleship.
2. You watch movies alone after he said he’ll be there. That’s singleship.
3. You spend most of your time talking to him through social networks/text/email. That’s singleship.
4. You see him two or fewer times out of the week because of his “job.” That’s singleship.
5. You wash clothes of his that you have NEVER seen him wear… (OMG). That’s singleship.
6. You walk down the block with him not holding your hand. That’s singleship.

7.  STILL Meeting NEW friends of his that have been in his LIFE for YEARS….Singleship

8. Still being introduced as “hey, this is my “girl” _______” Really? after a year and a half: SINGLESHIP

9. His Mom still asks you your name: Singleship

10.  You have NEVER been to his place: Singleship

11.  You still asking him the status of your relationship after a year: Singleship

Damn it, most of you Women that are in a  relationship are dating yourselves.  The list goes on and on and on and on and…ok let me stop. But if you feel “single” while in your relationship, there’s a BIG chance that you are!  SINGLESHIP…..Could that be you?

Men love to keep Women in this world!!

Carl A Roberts

Author of: Good Men Do Cheat