“Soul mate. Two little words. One big concept. The belief that someone, somewhere, is holding the key to your heart, and your dream house. All you have to do is find them. Where is this person? And if you love someone and it didn’t work out, does that mean they weren’t your soulmate? Are they just a runner-up in this game show called “Happily Ever After”?” ~Carrie Bradshaw
Have you ever found yourself thinking that someone was your soul mate, only to break up a few months later? It seems that many people have the wrong idea about what a soul mate really is. So, what exactly is a soul mate? Is it fair to say that every time you have sex with someone, your souls have mated? No, because being physically intimate with someone does not necessarily mean they are your forever love; it just means there is a sexual attraction.
We must learn to differentiate between soul mates and soul ties. A soul tie is two souls tied together by the spirit, mainly caused by sex. Those who live by certain beliefs may tell you that the act of sex is marriage through consummation, and every time an unmarried person has sex, they become married to that person. Not only is your soul tied to those you have been with, but it is also tied to those they have been with, and so on.
For example, if someone has had 25 sex partners, they have probably been exposed to hundreds of other souls. Simply put, you have sex with everyone your partner has had sex with. A soul mate, on the other hand, is the epitome of love and partnership – your heart’s other half and life partner.
The connection to a soul mate is immediate, while in a soul tie situation, the connection is bonded over time. Soul ties can often be unhealthy and damaging. Think for a minute about that one person who always seems to randomly cross your mind (for whatever reason); that is your soul tie.
Sex and love are two different entities, but it is not uncommon for us to confuse good sex with love. Most of us remain in “life-partner” situationships for various reasons, with sex being one of them. Soul ties have the tendency to keep you in bondage even after relationships have been severed. There is also the underlying fear of being alone. Victims of soul tie situations find themselves living the cliché “everything that glitters isn’t gold.” This goes back to my original question: At what cost are you willing to find what you believe is the perfect mate, only to realize they were a seat filler?
Ask yourself how many soul ties you have created and what’s left for your soul mate?