Ballerific Relationships – The Single Life

Being single is not always easy. Sure it looks fun, but there is always a high level of uncertainty. You often find yourself not knowing who you will come home to. There is always an air of emptiness that comes with being single. There is not anyone to share your highs or your lows with. On the other hand, being single provides freedom. You answer to no one but yourself. You are free to be how you want to be, with who you want to be with, and where you want to be at. With all this freedom, it is easy to be reckless. As strange as it may sound, there are necessary steps you can take to have a successful single relationship. Single? Relationship? You are probably asking how do those go hand in hand. Well, single does not mean alone, it just means not being committed to one specific person. Nonetheless, you are involved with other people and for your single life to run smoothly, you have to follow some simple rules.

Be Truthful
A staple in any successful relationship is honesty. If you are not looking for a commitment let it be known. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain when you let your intentions be known. When meeting someone you are interested in, explain what your situation is and what you are looking for. Allow that person to make a decision about you based on the truth that you have disclosed. If you begin things with a lie, you put everyone involved in a position to be hurt. Be honest and you just might get what you want.

Keep Your Numbers Low
Being single allows you to be with anyone, but it does not necessarily mean you should be with everyone. Your reputation can serve as an introduction. It precedes you. What people hear about you often gives insight into who you are. If you get around, you will be perceived as easy. It opens the door for people to steer clear of your “recklessness”. Though you are single, keep your numbers low. You also do not want to date within one particular circle. Mystery and intrigue is important when trying to convince someone that they should involve themselves with someone who does not want to be committed. Keeping your numbers low is especially beneficial to you. Think about how many times you are looking for someone to go to dinner with or have a late night rendez-vouz with, and you just end up scrolling through hundreds of phone contacts. With a small number, you increase your chances of accomplishing what you want to get done with who you want to get it done with.

Follow The Rules
The single life is often referred to as “The Game”. Like any game, there should be rules. To successfully play the game, those rules should be followed. What those rules are is up to you and the people you are involved with. You may feel that you should not obey any rules because the people you are involved with are not your significant other. However, you need to follow the rules because there are rules of your own that you will want to set and enforce. You can set these rules by being able to answer certain questions. What is your involvement? Is the relationship friendly or sexual? Are your partners allowed to date other people? How much time will you spend with each other? Will your involvement with each other be made public? Will the identities of your other partners be made known to each other? How does everyone feel about P.D.A. (Public Display of Affection)? Answering these and many more questions will help you set the parameters of the different relationships you are involved in.

When you are single, it is very hard to keep things in black and white. There is a lot of gray area. People change, their emotions change, and the seriousness of the relationships change. It is important to keep the communication lines open so that when these changes occur, the necessary adjustments can be made.

Written by @marvinady