Ballerific Relationships – To Be or Not to Be: Totally Available. By: @milagreee

Guy meets girl. Guy thinks he wants girl to be easy, compliant and available. But what happens when that girl decides to put her own life and passions on hold for this guy? Guy runs the other way and finds someone he needs to chase after, someone who presents a challenge. Time and time again, it is proven that what is handed to you, immediately depreciates in value. That for which you have to work for is all the more rewarding.

When a guy meets a girl who puts a pause on her life for him, he slowly realizes the lack of priority she has for her own life, her friends, her family, her passions. It’s good to step back and get a grip on your priorities.

I know it’s easy to consume yourself with the butterflies in your stomach at the sound of his name, or at the caller id on your phone when he calls. But take a second and GET a GRIP. You don’t know this guy from a h*** in the wall and he has to EARN his place in your life.
By respecting your values and passions, you are showing him you lead a fulfilling life… A life he wants to be part of. You aren’t playing games but you are displaying your own self importance. You aren’t ignoring his phone calls to play the hard to get game- you are allowing him to see that your life has and will go on without him. You’re allowing him to see that you lead a satisfying and pleasing life and he should be so lucky that you’ve allowed him to be a part of it.

So let’s pause and play ” the available girl ” scenario. AG, as we shall refer to her, has decided that she’s absolutely smitten with this tall, dark, and handsome man, who she’s had a couple of dates with. She recalls his smile and his hands. She starts to fantasize about the glorious life they’ll have together. AG starts to decline offers from other suitors, refuses to set plans and sits at home by her phone trying to telepathically will handsome man to call her. When he calls, she’s always willing and waiting. When he texts her, she answers immediately, deciding that if she really like him, she shouldn’t pretend not to have read the message. In fact, she should show him just how much she likes him by making sure he is always able to reach her. WRONG! Handsome man decides that she’s too available, starts to blow her off.

Wahhhh. What does AG do?
Cries about a relationship that never started? Probably. Had AG kept her life going, she wouldn’t have realized every time he sent her a message. She would’ve put some time between her responses. Not maliciously, but because her time is precious and she has a lot going on. It’s not about playing a game, per say.. it’s about having a life. Even if handsome man lost interest for other reasons, AG wouldn’t even flinch bc her life is fulfilling with out this man she just met. Life goes on. Keep yours going.