Dating can be a struggle for some, especially after being in a relationship for an extended period of time. You go from being with someone all the time and practically knowing everything about them to starting the process all over again. Starting over can become hectic when trying to figure out their likes and dislikes or even trying to decide whether or not they really want to be in a monogamous relationship at the moment. Let’s say you meet someone and the connection is there right away. The two of you begin going out on dates, hanging out, talking or texting all the time, and just spending a lot of time together. In her eyes, the two of you are doing everything a couple does but without a title. So he/she comes to you and asks about where the two of you stand, but your response isn’t what they are looking for. They were hoping for commitment, but you hit them with the “I’m not ready.” So now, the ultimate question that comes to mind is, “How Long Would You Date Someone Before Becoming Exclusive?” Many of us have heard about Ronnie and Shamari DeVoes relationship and how she waited almost three years just to be a girlfriend. Three years is a long time to just be with someone unofficially. How can you do everything that a couple does but don’t want to commit to just them? So is it okay for them to see other people since you aren’t ready? Like, how does this work? A man could have everything he wants in a woman right in front of him but still won’t commit. Now, what will end up happening is, the other person will get sick and tired of the fake relationship role and end up finding someone else. Then, all of a sudden, they are ready to commit. But are they really ready to commit? Commitment may be a title for some, but to others, it’s more than that. The last thing you want to do is play the role like you’re in a relationship, and five to ten years pass and you’re still in the same predicament. This is a conversation to have with your potential significant other before you get serious to ensure that the both of you are on the same page and not wasting one another’s time. You don’t want to waste a lot of time and energy only to find out they never want to get married, have kids, etc. What’s the longest you have waited to be someone’s significant other? - Baller Alert

Ballerific Relationships: What Has The Pandemic Taught You About Your Relationship?

Peachkyss December 17, 2020 Relationships Leave a comment

2020 has been one hell of a year for many of us financially, mentally, physically, and socially. Since the pandemic, we have learned to cope with this thing called life, whether we wanted to. It kind of just slapped us in the face and forced us to go through things that we clearly were not prepared for.

Along with practicing social distancing and spending more time at home, many of us have spent more time with our significant other than normal. Is that a bad thing? I guess it depends on who you ask. Before the pandemic, we had the opportunity to miss our significant other whether we were at work, hanging out, running errands, etc. The point is, many had that time apart.

Now, couples are spending more and more time together. They are getting to know their significant other even more. For some couples, this is a great thing. For others, they are starting to pay more attention to what is really going on within their relationship.

It seems like more couples are beginning to realize how unhappy they are in their situation, couples are finding out their mate is cheating, and some are even using this time to reconcile. Regardless, everyone is taking the opportunity to figure out what makes them happy, whether in a relationship or single.

If this pandemic has taught anyone anything, it’s to appreciate life and don’t take it for granted. If the pandemic has brought you closer to your mate, keep it going. Take this time to communicate more, laugh, and enjoy one another’s company. But, still give each other space. You don’t want to smother them.

If you are unhappy, communicate how you feel with your mate. Let them know what you are thinking and feeling. You may be both feeling the same way. But you have to communicate.

The pandemic has been full of ups and downs, but most importantly, it has shown everyone that we only get one life to live. We need to live and appreciate every moment. Don’t stay somewhere that makes you feel unhappy or unappreciated.

Let’s go into 2021 with a different mindset. Think about how you were feeling this year and use it as a guide to help you live even better in the new year,

Peachkyss

Peachkyss is the Fashion Writer and Content Curator for Baller Alert, who keeps the reader up-to-date on the latest trends, the latest luxury brand collections, and how to "ball" on a budget. Peachkyss has her Bachelors in Elementary Education with a concentration in Mathematics from Norfolk State University and Masters in Middle Grades Mathematics from Walden University. Have a question about what your favorite celeb is wearing or fashion advice, email me at [email protected] "Style is a way to say who you are without having to speak."

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