Ballerific Relationships: Ya Buggin What, Ya Buggin Who?

So, you’ve been talking to Mr. All That for a week or two and things are going seemingly well. He texts every morning, checks on you during his lunch break and you end your evenings with sweet phone conversations consistently. Untilllll one day you don’t hear from him at all. You chop it up to the possibility of him being busy and you want to leave him be. The next day there is no morning text and no mid day check in and now your antennas are up. You planned to spend the evening together but you’re unsure if he’s still coming because he hasn’t confirmed. Hours later you accept that Mr. All That is a Mr. No Call No Show. After debating for a few moments you decide to call to make sure everything is okay on his end. Your smile disappears when the call goes unanswered and you find yourself worried. Is something wrong? Did he lose his phone? Did I do something? Maybe it’s broken. You come up with scenario after scenario in an attempt to figure out why you he hasn’t called and better yet, why he didn’t answer your call.

“Forget it’ you say aloud as you hit the call button on your phone for a second time. Still, no answer. Maybe third time’s the charm? Nope! No answer. Maybe he just isn’t getting my calls. ‘Hey you! I’ve called you a few times. Call me when you get a chance. I hope you’re okay,’ you text. Then it happens. Your screen shows that your message has been read yet there is no reply. Wait.. WHAT? In an effort to distract yourself you scroll Instagram and see that he just uploaded a photo… 4 seconds ago. You comment, “Seriously?! *side eye emoji*” before deciding to call again.. then again.. and a few more times for good measure. Another text message, “Soooooooo, I KNOW you see me calling you!” followed by “?????????? *eyeballs emoji*” you get the same result as before, a read receipt staring back at you. There are no message bubbles that indicate that he is even attempting to respond. Or even worse, his read receipt is turned off or you’re not using an iphone at all. What now? Did he even get the texts? Yes girl, he did. Trust me. In a matter of minutes you have gone from worried, to angry to obsessed because you really can’t believe you’re being stood up and ignored. What a combo.

Nothing is wrong. His cat did not die, his phone was not stolen by a monkey in a leotard singing ‘Single Ladies’, he didn’t suddenly come down with Ebola or whatever outrageous idea you come up with to pacify yourself. Even if he planned to call back after the first call, he more than likely won’t now. He’s probably acting like a five year old and telling his friends that you’re crazy and ‘thirsty’ while passing his phone around so they can see it with their own eyes. *cringe* Ugh. Zon’t zo it girl.

Are you a serial caller or texter? How do you deal with being ignored? Does it instantly ‘click’ for you when someone becomes uninterested or do you need them to spell it out for you?