Block & Report As SPAM: How Trimming The Fat Will Make You Happier

It’s funny. When you try to live a more positive lifestyle, it appears that there is more and more negativity knocking at your door. Take social media for instance. Have you ever posted something positive and there’s always that one troll (followed by more trolls) who has to say something negative? Turning a post that was once filled with joy into a comment section version of a bar fight? How about offline, when you tell your friends that you’ve got a new man or a new job and instead of wishing you well they immediately start saying negative things like “girl, he’s a hoe” or “I heard they don’t pay much at that job.” Whether online or off, block and report as SPAM. If someone’s presence can’t add value to your life, their absence should make no difference.

You have the right to own your happiness. It is your right to be joyful and bask in your blessings and you don’t owe anyone an apology for the space you’re in. People do NOT have the right to bring you down. A lesson that I am still trying to teach myself is that I must learn not to engage in the negativity with them. Here’s the thing, people like to bring you down to their ignorant level. It happens all of the time. If you seem like you’re experiencing a little too much joy there will be someone waiting in the wings to say something stupid and engage you in a spat. If it’s online, you’ll probably tweet them back and next thing you know you’ve given that person 30 minutes of your time. That’s 30 minutes of negative energy. Offline is even worse because someone may say something slick and although you don’t respond, you mentally hold on to those words/actions for days. Next thing you know, you’ve allowed someone’s negativity to live in you for a week.

This is why it’s necessary to kill it before it breeds. Trim the fat. BLOCK AND REPORT AS SPAM! Before someone allows you to jump out of character, or harp on their negative actions, delete them from your life. Real friends are happy for you as long as you’re happy. They know how to voice their concerns and they know that all of your decisions don’t revolve around them. They also know that not every announcement warrants their opinion. They value your happiness enough to not take it away from you. If you don’t have a friend like that, block them from your life until they get the picture. 

The same goes with social media. Stop letting strangers work you up…even for a few minutes. I personally like to say my piece then block them before they get the opportunity to respond. They usually get so mad! Imagine, they spent all of that time typing up a response that they just KNEW was going to get you riled up, only to find out they can’t hit “Send”. Poor them! 

Keeping a positive attitude brings more positivity in your life. It’s the whole “put it in the universe” theory. It truly works. The more positive you are, the more positive things shall be. Don’t let dirty people all in your space, tracking mud in your clean house.  You have the right to block anyone you want and you shouldn’t feel guilty about it. That goes for on and off the internet.