When We Break Up, You Need To Break Up With My Friends Too

Loyalty goes a long way, especially amongst friends. It makes all the difference in the cutthroat world we live in. You know what the problem is with loyalty though? It is a phrase that is used loosely amongst those we trust and confide in, that you soon realize there is no such thing. Most are only loyal to you, so they can use you to get to where they want or for what they need. However, when it comes to friends and your ex, where does the loyalty lie when they still hang post breakup.

Naturally it’s already hard bringing bae around your friends. Some relationships end well while others end on a bad note. Sometimes you find that you’re just not compatible with someone and it’s better that you part ways. However, when you and your ex decide to end things, sometimes your friends choose to play both sides.

Breaking up with an ex is already a task and hard enough in itself. So when your friends decide to keep in contact, let alone hangout with him or her post breakup, it just makes things that much more awkward and complicated. I’m pretty sure looking at a lot of these entertainment industry friendships, you see a lack of allegiance, respect, and definitely loyalty.

While going through a bad break up or just a rough time, we should be able to call on our friends and vent. However, how can you call them when they are too busy trying being friends with your so-called “ex.” Not to mention you’re stuck witnessing your ex showcasing their new relationship and new friendship alliance with your so called “friends.”

Now, you already expect you ex’s level of pettiness to push him/her  to throw their new friendship with your friend(s) in your face. On the other hand, where does the loyalty lie with said “friends.” While the dirt is still fresh on your breakup, they’ve already chose a side that benefits them beyond the longevity of your friendship. Suddenly, all their social media posts are all about each other and you’re the outcast. Regardless of the fact that their union was through you.

The reality of the matter is we sometime throw around the word “friend” loosely. Truth is the ones that matter become family. Meanwhile, we sometimes turn a blind eye to the leeches we call friends, until they find a new leech to suck the life out of.

Even friends can be opportunists and social climbers. Associating themselves with you because of who you know or what you can provide them access to. Users attaching themselves to other’s success and status to elevate their own.

All I know is when I leave his a$$ everyone better get in formation and follow, if they are really a friend of mine.