Ballerific Relationships: Can A Cheater Still Love You?

It’s reported that 30-60 percent of people in a committed relationship will cheat on their partner at some point. Lately, I’ve been seeing more and more instances of women (and men) sticking by their infidels side and a rush of posts and reposts on social media proclaiming loyalty through any AND all situations. It has really pushed me to wonder if this generation is more accepting of maintaining relationships with people who cheat than those of the past?

Cheating is one of those no-no’s in a relationship that normally cause people to pull the shade on the whole operation… Many women, especially those who choose athletes as mates, deal with this nasty reality.

Can someone cheat on you and still love you? It depends on who you are and who you ask…. In my opinion, men are very visual and women are a purse full of emotions.

Many times women get the excuse from their infidel, “it was just sex.” In all actuality, he has a point. Men aren’t as open to expressing themselves as women are, therefore the chances of her knowing his middle name, his greatest fear, most trying moments, and what makes him emotional are slim to none, which in some regard speaks volumes of your role in his life. Men usually keep their sex and emotions separate which allows them the capacity to sleep with multiple people and not feel like Drake by the end of the week. Notice how in the instances of the mistress waiting on her chance to be wife and is constantly disappointed when he doesn’t leave…. Just because you know how to make a man toe’s curl doesn’t mean you can make his heart throb for you (among other things.) That’s where the issue comes in.

Women are emotional beings and will not normally have sex with a man she hasn’t felt a bond with. Although in the era of loving ballers, we see more and more promiscuous women, but the women who remain true to their values is whom this is geared toward. Women love to see their future in the eyes of their mate, feel their security in his arms, and feel more and more loved with every kiss. Women aren’t going to get in bed until they’re intrigued. That’s where the double standard comes in to play. Men are very aware that women connect emotionally and the rest is uphill from there. When a woman cheats it’s because she is missing something on the home front, which kills the ego of her partner.

Men can still love the woman they cheat with and honestly feel as though he hasn’t fully wronged her, but the women who are torn down emotionally will retaliate out of a sense that she isn’t appreciated within; that is not the case. There is never a valid reason to cheat, but which instance is worse; physical fulfillment or building a new emotional connection on the side? Both are bound to hurt, but the physical DOES NOT constitute a deep love connection or a walk to the altar. Keeping your emotions separate is key to cheating with no feelings for your side piece (although I say save the trouble and remain faithful.)