Can You Ever Escape The Friend Zone

Men complain about being put in the friend zone all the time. We laugh at them, but unfortunately we’re in that zone a lot more often than we’d like to admit. 

I can speak for myself when I say that I have taken permanent residence in the friend zone. I’m not quite sure what has caused this. I’m lead to believe its karma for how many guys I’ve stuck in the zone in the past. Men are finally getting me back. A good majority of it may have to do with the fact that more men would probably like to work with me than “work” with me. Allow me to break down some of the personality traits that land us women in the friend zone (a lot of which I posses).

The Homie Lover Friend: You were probably a tom boy growing up. You know everything about sports, music and video games. You fit in perfectly with the guys and ideally you’d make a great girlfriend but guys can’t see past the fact that you’re one of them. You’ve boxed yourself in to the friend zone by just simply having something in common.

The Boss Chick: I don’t care what a man tells you, they are intimidated. They want to be the boss and a boss chick scares them. A man wants to be in control at all times. They pre-judge that a boss chick wants to be in control at all times and that she’s difficult. She’s cool to be around, but who wants to deal with a controlling chick? Better yet, who wants to deal with a chick who’s doing more for herself than YOU are?

Procrastinator: You could have been out of the friend zone but you waited too long and you missed the bus. There is often a window of opportunity in which you can jump out of the friend zone and into a possible relationship. The trick is to know when that window has opened. The key to avoiding this is not waiting forever to tell a man you’re interested. If he doesn’t feel the same, yes things may be awkward for a while, but you guys will get over it. Make sure you don’t put pressure on him to feel the same way that you do. Put it out on the table, tell him how you feel, and let him know that he’s free to feel however he feels.

Gave It Up: Did you give him the goods and now you’re the homegirl? This happens a lot! Frankly, you gave him what he wanted and now you can’t get a relationship out of him. You guys remain friends, but somehow something has him not wanting anything more. In this case, it’s time to chalk it up as a loss. The likelihood of getting out of this zone is slim to none.

Then there’s the obvious, he’s just not into you. Face it, not everyone is going to want what you’re serving. It happens. There’s no getting out of that zone either. Best thing you can do is find a good guy you’re into, be up front and see where it goes…but the friend zone? That’s the zone no one wants to be in.