Charm School: Club Etiquette for the Fellas – blogged by: @proudlylauren

The weekend is what we wait for all week, anxious to unwind, have a good time and put the week and its stresses behind us. There’s something relaxing about looking your best and having a good time with your friends, while enjoying a drink and good music. But for ladies, there’s an entirely different kind of stress to look forward to on the weekend: all of the overly obnoxious, disrespectful and creepy men who feel entitled to every woman he deems attractive. These type of guys take all the fun out of the club, and have us asking every Sunday “Why the hell did I waste an outfit”. So fellas, this is for you, these Do’s and Don’ts will help put you above the rest, and separate you from the obnoxiously entitled creeps swarming clubs near you.

Don’t Talk too much- Nothing is more annoying than the guy who wants to talk about life, while we’re trying to bust it open to Future. Do you really care enough to fight over the music and ask what our favorite color is, or why we chose to move to the city? If everything goes smooth, and you keep the questions to a minimum, those are all questions you can ask on the first date.

Do Make Small Talk- That doesn’t mean absolutely no conversation. Introducing yourself, and making small talk is acceptable. Ask if she’s having a good time, if she’s been here before etc., just know when to wrap it up, and leave it at small talk.

Don’t Force Yourself on Her- Every woman is familiar with the guy who grabs, yanks, and gives a full body frisk when she walks past. Though we appreciate a dominant man, there is nothing attractive about a man who doesn’t respect space or self control.

Do Ask to Dance- If you are feeling a woman, there’s nothing wrong with simply asking if she wants to dance with you. It shows confidence and initiative, and is a respectful way to let her know you are interested.

Do Get The Digits- If the vibes are right, go in for the kill and ask for her number. If she’s hesitant, give her yours and show her you’re confident enough to wait.

Don’t Ask More Than Once- If the lady politely tells you no, she doesn’t want you to have her number, leave it alone. Don’t approach her more than once, get disrespectful, or cause a scene after all, it’s not like you acting crazy will make her change her mind.

Do Introduce her to Your Friends- If both of you traveled with friends, introducing each others friends presents a group setting, and may therefore ease the awkwardness of approaching someone at the club.

Don’t Send Your Friend- If you are interested in someone, do not send your friend to get the digits, or express interest on your behalf.  A middle man says you’re too scared to go after what you want; so If you aren’t confident enough to approach her on your own, you probably don’t deserve her time.

Do Give Her Space After getting her number, have fun with the guys again. You’ve accomplished your mission, had good conversation, and left your mark. Let her enjoy her evening and you enjoy yours.

Don’t Be Clingy If she gives you her number, that doesn’t mean she belongs to you for the rest of the night. Don’t fall in love, get mad when she talks to other guys, and be the creepy guy who seems to linger no matter where she looks up. She just met you, don’t scare her right away.

Fellas, if you can master these simple Club Etiquette suggestions, the club will be your domain. I challenge you to use at least two of these tips this weekend when you hit the streets. If you do it right, you’ll notice how the women cringe to the men who have no finesse, and how they lust over you, the smooth, calm, club connoisseur. Happy clubbing!