Does Your Spouse Owe It To You To Make You Successful?

If you were married to someone who could further your career somehow, do you think that they owe it to you to help you get ahead? This blog was inspired by Tamar Braxton and her marriage to Vincent Herbert, award winning producer and record executive. Tamar wants to be a successful solo R&B artist and feels that it is her husband’s responsibility that she makes it. 

Your spouse is supposed to want the best for you. They are supposed to want to see you fulfill all of your dreams and he should stand beside you while you do so. I don’t feel however that it’s the responsibility of your spouse to make that happen for you, even if they are in a position to do so. I am the type that believes in doing things myself. There is a lot of bad that can come from your spouse playing MORE than just a support system. 

1) His Job Is On The Line – Depending on what his job is, he may be risking it all to put you on. Is it fair to ask someone to take such a big risk for you? 

2) You May Not Like His Methods – In the case of Tamar Braxton her husband is a record executive. He had to take off his “husband” hat and make executive decisions. Unfortunately, this caused him to butt heads with his wife as they had very different ideas on how her career should be.

3) It Can Cause A Rift In Your Relationship If It Doesn’t Work – If it doesn’t work out you may resent him. You don’t mean to, but when your dreams are deferred, sometimes the last thing you do is blame yourself. Is it really fair to blame him for something that YOU wanted him to do?

Ladies, if you have a dream of being anything in life, you have to make a way for yourself. No spouse, friend or colleague can do a better job of getting you where you need to be than you can do for yourself.