Enjoy The Moment: Mr. Right Now – blogged by: @TheBuzzWithB

The process of finding “the one” is a daunting task to say the least. The older you get, and the longer you’ve trekked through the arduous journey to find love, the less energy you have  to continue on. You don’t necessarily want to be single, especially through the rapidly decreasing temperatures of cuffing season, but as you stare off into the distance, squinting with all your might, you can’t seem to see Mr. Right anywhere on the horizon.

That’s where Mr. Right Now comes in. I’m not talking about the guy who texts you “Wuss gd?” at 3:17 AM on Friday nights after the club closes when you haven’t heard from this man all day, or the guy who barely acknowledges your presence in public places because he’s too busy entertaining a gaggle of other chicks. That’s not who I’m referring to. That’s a f-ck boy, my dear, who’s probably not that interested. Don’t be confused. Mr. Right Now is that guy who’s cool, you have a good time together, and you genuinely enjoy his company. He treats you well and is always down for a good time, but you know he’s not the one for one reason or another. Maybe the connection isn’t deep enough to sustain anything long term. Maybe he isn’t interested in a relationship at the moment. Maybe you guys simply don’t have much in common besides good times and good laughs. Maybe all there is to it a strong attraction and decent chemistry and not too much else. And you know what? That’s okay. Every spark isn’t going to turn into a blazing, everlasting flame.

I think we all, myself included, have gotten wrapped up in the potential of a fresh, new man who popped up, fully equipped with all the bells and whistles. We get so excited that we prematurely think – “This is it! He’s the one I’ve been waiting for. He’s everything I asked for and more. All of my hopes and dreams have come true and we will live happily, ever after!” Okay, maybe that was a slight exaggeration, but, girl, don’t act like you’ve never thought something along those lines before… probably more than a few times. All of these high expectations after one good dinner at Bonefish Grill, only to be later disappointed 3 weeks down the line that he was not actually your perfect match. Cool dude, fun guy, but not worthy of #RelationshipGoalsMet hashtag you’ve been dying to use as a caption. And again, I say, that’s absolutely okay! Don’t count it out. You might just learn a thing or two during this no pressure situation that you may not have been able to realize or explore if you were fully enthralled into something more complex. Enjoy it for what is it. Relax. You’ve been waiting to exhale, so take this good breather. Let him be the one… for now. Be careful to keep your feelings from slipping out of your control, and make sure ol’ buddy knows the deal as well. Usually these types of things amicably fade out on their own, leaving you with good memories and hopefully a pretty good friend.

So take a quick hiatus from your search and remove those heavy duty binoculars you’ve been scanning the streets with to find Mr. Right, and be open to enjoying the moment with Mr. Right Now.