Gabrielle Union Blames Herself For D. Wade Scandal, Gives Relationship Advice

Gabrielle Union has had a pretty eventful new year so far. First the news of Dwyane Wade’s secret baby became public, but then on the up side her new BET movie turned drama series “Being Mary Jane” premiered and received high ratings. Because of the latter, Gabby has been heavy on the promo trail to bring awareness to the new show. 

While on her promo run, Gabby sat down with Glamour Magazine. In the interview she not only gave relationship advice, but spoke on her own relationship with D. Wade, saying it was her fault they took a “break” and now there’s a baby. 

“Over the summer, I reassessed priorities,” she said. “I’d always wanted an awesome career with back-to-back projects, but I realized I wasn’t willing to sacrifice my relationship for it.”

She goes on to say, “[When Dwyane and I broke up briefly in 2013] was because of distance and scheduling,” the star of BET’s “Being Mary Jane” added. “I finished filming the show. Then I flew to Vegas right away to start shooting ‘Think Like a Man Too.’ I couldn’t take time off, and I missed some quality togetherness we desperately needed.”

Before I go on to Gabrielle’s relationship advice, let me just say that her taking the blame is bullish*t. It’s not fair to think that your man can have a fruitful career but YOU can’t because if YOU work it will strain the relationship. You can’t help it if you’re an ambitious woman. The break up can be your fault but I’m not buying that answer. D. Wade’s ex-wife Siovaughn didn’t work and now she’s camped out at city hall in Chicago begging for chump change to get by. Who purposely wants to live that way? You need more people Gab.

Secondly, you being even the slightest bit of a workaholic is NOT the reason Dwyane had unprotected sex with another woman. He did that because he wanted to. You shouldn’t have to put your livelihood on hold for a boyfriend. If D. Wade wanted her to stop working, he should have married her sooner and made her a kept woman. Plus, it’s already been established that there wasn’t a “break” in the relationship and if there was, obviously Gabby and her Instagram page didn’t know about it. So essentially she is saying that her working caused her man to cheat. That’s just dumb.

Now on to Gabrielle Union’s relationship advice: 

• DO forget your “type.” It worked for me. When I met Dwyane, his “résumé” looked like crap: athlete, going through a divorce, nine years younger than me. None of that screamed, “Let’s have a lasting relationship.” Then, after I had a heart-crushing breakup with yet another immature jerk, I thought, it can’t be any worse if I date a fetus. Let’s just see what happens. Turned out he’d been on his own since he was 15. He had wisdom that comes with facing an insane amount of adversity. He’s sweet, funny, honest about his shortcomings. When I put my preconceived notions to the side, I found someone cool.

• DON’T put up with a friend-versus-boyfriend tug-of-war. Some friends act possessive and say, “You’re not spending enough time with me.” Huh? Remember when we made our vision boards and the dude was in the middle? You’re supposed to be happy for me. Thankfully, my girls are like, “High-five!” And D likes to be around them too. If there’s weirdness, either something’s wrong with the friends—or the boy. Investigate. And sift accordingly.

• DO show him your feelings. Daily. Dwyane generally gets up before I do to go to the gym, and he’s never left without kissing me and telling me he loves me. As for me, I am complimentary to the point where I am almost a little Chester the Molester-y. I think he’s so delicious. Watching him get out of the shower never gets old. Never. It’s not like he ever wonders what I’m thinking, but usually he’s thinking, She needs a cold shower!

• DON’T write off an ex (or get back together) without really thinking it through.  When you’re debating whether to go backward or forward, you have to look at the original issue.  Moving forward, I decided my work schedule has to make sense for our family. Bottom line: If an issue’s a deal breaker, it’s a deal breaker. If your relationship isn’t something you’re willing to give up and you can compromise, do so.

So what do we think of Gabrielle’s relationship advice?