Girlfriend Charged In Boyfriend’s Suicide After Telling Him “Hundreds Of Times” To Kill Himself

The girlfriend of a Boston college student has been charged in her boyfriend’s suicide, after telling him to kill himself hundreds of times, according to officials. Alexander Urtula, 22, killed himself 90 minutes before his graduation ceremony on May 20, where his family had traveled from New Jersey to attend.

Inyoung You, 21, who was a former Boston College student, is charged with involuntary manslaughter. Evidence found on Urtula’s cellphone led investigators to conclude that You played a vital role in his death by suicide. girlfriend charged for suicide Attorney Rachael Rollins said at a news conference Monday that, “She was aware of his suicidal thoughts,” and that, ”She encouraged him to take his own life.”

The texts allegedly included repeated messages urging Urtula to kill himself and to “go die,” and that the world would be better off without him.

Suffolk County prosecutors and the MBTA transit police detectives determined that You was, “Physically, verbally and psychologically abusive toward Mr. Urtula during their 18-month-long relationship,” according to Rollins. 

Prosecutors said in the two months before he took his own life, he and You exchanged 75,000 text messages, with more than half of those messages coming from her. Prosecutors claim that she exerted control over him, and say that she even tracked his movement via his cellphone. 

Leading up to the days and hours before his death, officials claim those texts became more frequent, more powerful, and more demeaning, although she allegedly knew of Urtula’s “spiraling depression.”

Further, You was said to have been tracking Urtula’s location via her phone on the morning of his death, and reports claim she was present at the parking garage in Boston’s Roxbury neighborhood, when he jumped off the roof of a parking garage and died.

You is currently in South Korea, where she is from. Authorities say they are “cautiously optimistic” that she will voluntarily return to the United States, but if she does not willingly cooperate, they say they plan to, “Utilize the power we have to get her back,” Rollins stated.