He Likes Me, He Likes Me Not: A Mixed Signal Is A Clear Signal

Boy meets girl, says and does all the right things, and the girl starts falling for a boy.  Suddenly, the boy becomes inconsistent, and his words are no longer matching his actions, and the girl begins to feel confused.  The girl runs it by her friends, and they all conclude that this dude is sending mixed signals, and they encourage her to hang in there and give her a million and one excuses as to why she should. Errr. HALT.  If you’re unclear about what’s going on, it’s usually a clear indication that the two of you are not on the same page.

Dating can be tricky, but it’s nowhere near as tricky as it’s made out to be.  For some reason, we love to complicate things instead of seeing them for what they are and imagining there is some secret code we must crack.  I don’t believe in mixed signals.  A mixed-signal is a clear one.  I’m sure you’re familiar with the term “actions speak louder than words,” and it rings true in cases like this.  If someone is wooing you with words yet failing to follow up, there is little to be confused about.  Maybe the person you’re into really is conflicted, stringing you along, or there is a total lack of interest; the line can be very fine.  “Why can’t they just be honest?” “Why won’t they just SAY that?” right?  That’s too much like, right.

Do you really want to wait around to see which it is?  In the long run, you’ll be happy you didn’t waste your time waiting for a green light at a stop sign.  When you know, you know. You won’t be left to wonder, have to jump through hoops, call Miss Cleo’s cousin, or stand on one leg while barking and holding a plastic fork to figure it out.  You. Will.  Know.

What is your experience with mixed signals?  Do you believe it’s just a term women use when they’re in denial that someone lacks interest?