Hello, My Name is Single By: @milagreee

For some of us hopeless romantics, it is often difficult to decipher where you stand in a relationship with a man. You might constantly have the wool pulled over your eyes and aren’t able to see that where you stand isn’t where you want to be. At times, the man can be overly charming and totally swoon you, blinding you to what is actually going on and leaving you unable to tell whether or not you are actually in a committed relationship with this man. I have compiled a list that might help you when trying to figure out if you really are his girlfriend, or he doesn’t want to commit to you.

– The number one way to tell that he doesn’t want to be in a relationship with you or that you in fact are not his girlfriend is that he will not tell you that you are. He will avoid that “what are we?” conversation at all costs. In fact, speaking of the future often leaves him a little bit uncomfortable and stupid things fly out of his mouth. That conversation will cease to begin in the first place. He will avoid making any type of commitment and lack any type of effort when it comes to you.

– He will send you mixed signals or messages. He will tell you how much he likes you but in the same breath forget your birthday. He will avoid spending any money on you. He has to go to a wedding but he won’t invite you.

– He will not want to introduce you to his family, sometimes his friends. A lot of men do not mind introducing you to his friends, because he can introduce a ton of girls to his friends without them caring. When it comes to his family however, he will not bring you around unless you are his girlfriend. If he never mentions introducing you to his family, chances are you are not his girlfriend.

– You wake up after a fun night together and start to clean up or wash dishes and he vehemently tells you to stop cleaning. He doesn’t want you to take care of him or clean up after him, that’s what a girlfriend would do. Now, there are scumbags that will let you clean up after him but still don’t consider you his girlfriend but they aren’t worth the mention.

– You won’t feel your best when you’re with him. You feel inadequate or as though you have to change who you are or how you dress to please him. You might feel a lack of confidence around him. This should tell you that you aren’t his girlfriend because if you were, who you are would suffice.

– While having sex, he will make sure that he doesn’t look you in the eyes too much so he can control how much you two actually bond. Although he will do his best to make sure you two do not connect, it will be what sums up your relationship. After the sex, he will not want to spend more time with you.

– You are kept as the Sunday through Thursday girl. If you decide Tuesday doesn’t work for you and you need to reschedule for Friday, he starts to get a little nervous.

– You are introduced as his friend when he has to. Believe him.

– His feelings for you seem to fluctuate. When he wants to see you, he comes off extremely strong but when he doesn’t, it almost feels like you’re bothering him.

Any combination of these might give you the heads up you need to let you know that the man you are involved with has no intentions of being in any committed relationship with you. Time to RUN!