How to Get Him to Be Your Valentine (In Just Over a Month)

Valentine’s Day is around the corner, and you’ve got just enough time to snag yourself a Valentine this year.

Here are a few ways to make him peep the hints with no pressure, and no over-the-top moves.

Start with being lowkey. You don’t want to come off too thirsty. You want him to notice you, but not like you’re trying too hard. Comment on his social media posts, and reply to his stories, but keep it cool. Don’t flood his inbox. Just make your presence felt in subtle ways.

Once he’s paying attention, build on that. Find things you both like. Whether it’s music, movies, or a shared inside joke, get a conversation going and keep it light. The goal here is to get him comfortable talking to you without making it feel like an interview.

By the end of January, start mentioning Valentine’s Day—but do it casually. You’re not asking for a date yet; you’re just throwing it out there:

•“Ugh, Valentine’s Day is coming up. You got any plans?”

•“What’s your take on Valentine’s? Do you normally celebrate or is it just another day for you?”

See how he responds. If he’s into it, you’re in.

Now, time to step it up with some playful, flirty texts. Let him know you’re interested, but keep it confident:

•“You’d be the perfect Valentine, but I might let you off the hook if you’re not ready for all this yet.”

He’ll get the hint that you’re a secure girl and a fan of the romantic holiday.

By February 10th, it’s time for the soft ask. Keep it light and playful, no need to make it serious at all:

•“So… you gonna make me your Valentine or do I need to find someone else?”

If he’s been vibing with you, this move will lock it in. And if he’s not into it? No big deal. There’s always someone else ready to claim that spot. Keep it moving.

Keep things fun and lighthearted. Valentine’s Day doesn’t need to be a big deal; just a good time together. Whether it’s grabbing drinks, watching a movie, or just hanging out—keep it simple.

Confidence, subtlety, and a little flirtation are all you need to have him locked in for V-Day. Now go make it happen.