How To Punish Your GF/BF When They Piss You Off – blogged by: @proudlylauren

Ladies, don’t you hate when you catch your man lying about something, you KNEW he was lying about the entire time? Big or small, its annoying as hell. Men don’t you hate when your girlfriend doesn’t do anything but run her mouth, complaining about every little thing, day in and day out? It makes us fight, kick each other out, and act irrationally out of frustration. I know I personally would always think of ways to get revenge, to punish him for whatever he had done to me. Tit for tat.

So I started thinking of different ways to get revenge, cleverer ways; there was no, if you ignore me, I ignore you, way too basic of an approach. No, you ignore me, I disappear for three days, no warning. So I figured, why not come up with a list of ways to punish your partner when they mess up. I mean I did come up with some very unique tactics. However, I realized I’d be wrong for passing along advice that has never worked for me. Not one time.

Which brings me to my point of this post: there is absolutely no right way to punish your partner. Want to know why? Because they aren’t your child to punish, they are your partner.

We all make mistakes, every single one of us, and if we were punished every time we made a mistake, we’d be miserable. Think about all the times you needed forgiveness, and the comfort of being understood. Not judged and punished, especially not by the person you’re supposed to be in a relationship with.

Instead you all should be on the same page, and have a specific way you all handle problems. Communicate about what the consequences will be if you catch them lying, and enforce it. If you don’t tolerate cheating, tell them that, and leave when they cheat. If you’re the one who forgives their cheater, then tell them you want them out of the house no communication for two weeks or however long (if you feel silly telling them you’ll take him back after cheating, you should feel just as silly actually taking them back).  If you all have enough respect for each other to have this type of conversation, you likely don’t even have to worry. A couple with that level of understanding, and communication, will also have enough sense to not run into issues like lies, disrespect and infidelity.

Relationships are not a tit for tat type of thing. You aren’t loving someone when you are trying to hurt them the same way they hurt you. And you definitely aren’t helping your relationship by punishing them like some child, trust me, I know. If you can’t avoid those things, and instead insist on punishing, or getting revenge, it’s only a matter of time, before you realize the vicious cycle your relationship is in: misbehave, punish, misbehave, punish. Instead, come to an agreement of what you all expect from each other, and agree on the acceptable way to handle problems. If that’s impossible, it may be time to move on.