When referring to light-skinned, curly-haired, mixed women, there is no word thrown around more than the word “exotic.” I absolutely cannot stand the word “exotic” and it has absolutely nothing to do with me being a brown skin sista myself.
Let’s start with the obvious thing that disturbs me about the word exotic and how it’s used, MEN! Men misuse this word more than anyone I have ever encountered. Men use the word exotic to describe women who are mixed and have “good” hair. Usually, women who are or seem to have some type of Spanish in their blood and are, in a sense, racially ambiguous. These are the women that men claim “have hair like the weave that regular black women have to buy” and are way prettier than regular black women, especially without makeup. Now, I don’t want to be Miss Debbie Downer, but to all the men who think this ignorant “fact” is true, allow me to bust that foolish bubble of yours. First and foremost, these exotic ladies with this exotic hair you love so much are wearing the same Indian Remi as I am…and yes, they bought it at the same store I did too! In fact, she’s not an ounce of Latino; she’s just light skin with a fresh perm who lived in a Spanish neighborhood. What is it that our black men think is so spectacular about a girl whose race they can’t pinpoint that a “regular ol” black girl isn’t worth it anymore. Oh yeah, it’s the word EXOTIC!
First and foremost, let’s understand what exotic really means. Exotic is used to describe things that come from places other than the country you’re in. Cars, flowers, and foods are exotic. Your homegirl mixed with Mexican and Black is NOT! There is not a country called “Mexican & Black,” and you can find a Mexican and Black, Black and White or Asian and Black girl around any corner of any hood. Guess what, they’re not exotic or even rare. The brown skin girl from a country you can’t pronounce in Africa, however, would be considered exotic.
This blog is not to put down any race or mix of races but rather to spotlight the blatant misuse of a word. People use the word “exotic” in a way to mean that anything not “exotic” is bland and “regular.” The problem with that thought is what or who we’re calling exotic. The women who are truly exotic (Iman, Naomi Campbell, etc) are not considered exotic, why is that? I suggest we stop using the word exotic to describe human beings. We should use exotic to describe foreign objects, not people. Women aren’t a fancy car, we’re what makes the world go round.