If You’re Too Nice, He Thinks You’re Flirting

Have you ever found yourself being polite to someone only for them to mistake it for flirting? I have and it’s annoying. Since when did me making conversation with you mean that I wanted to go back to your place. How do you keep men from thinking you want him sexually just because you share kind words and a smile?

First you must know the type of man you are dealing with. Know that you are dealing with one of two types of people. Either he is not used to being shown kindness so he does not know how to respond to it or he is used to the vagina being thrown at him like a batting cage. The key is to know which one you are dealing with.

Let’s start with the type of man who is not used to kindness. He’s usually the quiet, introverted type. He doesn’t hang out much and when he does he stays to himself. He probably doesn’t have a lot of people that he can consider real friends, probably isn’t a 10 in everyone’s book. This type of man probably isn’t used to being shown love so when he receives it he takes it to heart. When dealing with this man you have to be very careful with the words and body language you use. This type of man needs to be handled with care. Don’t mistreat him in anyway, but do be clear that you are just being friendly. Try not to make flirtacious gestures and if he is someone important to your professional field, keep things as work related as possible.

For the type of man who is consumed by his ego so much that he thinks every woman wants him, he’s the type you have to prove wrong intentionally. He’s the type that easily flirts back so you must turn down all of his advances. Not saying be rude, no one likes a rude girl, but definitely make it clear from the jump that a romantic relationship is not something you’re looking for. Mentioning that you may have a boyfriend or someone that you are romantically involved with can often do the trick.

So how do you deal with someone who thinks you’re flirting when you’re just being nice?