“I’m Gay And I Dated A ‘Straight’ Professional Athlete”

No this isn’t the story of Kerry Rhodes and Russell “Hollywood” Simpson, although the story may be quite similar. Our friends over at datsmyq.com sat down with blogger Brian Patrick Davis (@blacksocialite) recently for a candid interview where he discusses dating a professional athlete living the down low lifestyle in Atlanta, GA. Check out an excerpt from the interview below and see if you can guess that Baller (no, it’s not Kordell).

Brian: There have been a couple of instances in my life where I’ve dealt with men like that stick out to me. [There] was a guy who played professional basketball, whom I obviously cannot name for legal reasons. At the time, I was living downtown in a condo and rarely left the city.  And if I did, it definitely wasn’t that far out.

DMQ: Oh, I see. How did things start between the two of you?

Brian: I used to be really into photography, specifically event photography.  I used to work for a guy who threw parties for a living and was very close to a couple of players on a few different teams and was notorious for his parties.  I was taking pictures at one of these parties.  I was young, and liked to have my homegirls (I like the company of females a lot.) with me when I took photos at some events. While a particular party was wrapping up, a guy, who was attractive but not recognizable to me, asked me if I wanted a drink.  I thought he was just being nice.  Everyone was being nice to me.  I worked for threw parties for [the party hosts], so I thought they were just being courteous and not wanting to make me feel uncomfortable.

DMQ: Do you ever find yourself uncomfortable being the only gay man person setting?

Brian: Anyone who knows me, knows that I have no problem with being the only out gay male in a straight setting.  I frequently party at straight clubs, I actually prefer them.  I told the guy that I didn’t drink, and he smiled and laughed. Later on the evening, when everyone was leaving, someone (someone else, someone different) approached me and gave me a business card that had a number on it, and asked me to call the number later on that evening when I got home.  The interaction was discreet.

Brian: I didn’t call again, for sheer nervousness, honestly.  And I was kind of embarrassed because I didn’t have the number to dial it anymore, anyway.  And I didn’t want to ask for the phone number again.  But sure enough, that evening, I received a phone call.  The voice on the other end was deep, but not intimidating.

DMQ: And what happened during that conversation? What did you all talk about?

Brian: He basically poked fun at the fact that he had done a lot to get in touch with me and felt a little embarrassed about reaching out the way he was doing, because he wasn’t used to it.

The story goes on but you’ll have to continue reading over at DatsMyQ.I think it’s really important for us as ladies to understand the down low lifestyle and how it really is DOWN LOW. There are, without a doubt, gay athletes and just because they’re not throwing glitter all over the place doesn’t mean they are straight. Just because one may be a bit more effeminate does not make him gay. The interview was actually a really good read so I suggest you head over and give it a looksie!