Is There A Such Thing As A Bisexual Man?

This question comes up very often yet there never seems to be an easy answer. When it comes to sexuality its far more acceptable for women to be gay, straight or bisexual. On the flip side, society doesn’t agree with bisexual men (or that they even exist).

I’ve posed the question several times “Can Men Be Bisexual” and the consensus seems to be that if a man has any interest in other men he is immediately deemed gay. Regardless of whether he is also sexually attracted to women, he’s still gay. When asking women if she’d date a bisexual man the answer is normally “No”. Why the double standard? 

Bisexual women are deemed as sexy and more attractive by society. Bisexual men are non existent or 100% homosexual. Women fear men who they feel may be bisexual. They feel that the man can’t be trusted and that is impossible for him to be loyal to one lover. What about all of the men who pretend to be straight but live on the down low? Do we blame that on bisexuality or on society not letting men be completely open with their sexuality. Are men who are attracted to both females and males just selfish?

I think the way society (myself included) treats bisexual men is the reason that the whole “Down Low” thing exists. Men are afraid that if they are bisexual that they’ll be ousted and treated as just gay. Meanwhile, on the other hand a bisexual woman is free to love whoever she pleases with little to no repercussion. As a woman, I can’t honestly say that I would date a bisexual man. Not because I thought he was “nasty” or “selfish” but mainly because I just don’t think I’d be secure enough with a man who liked the same “things” i liked. Face it, I’d be insecure as sh-t if I thought that somewhere out there another man could do for my man what I couldn’t. There’s already a lot of competition out there, I don’t think I could handle it.

I do believe that there are bisexual men out there though. I also believe that there are more than we know, they’re just not showing themselves for fear of backlash. I hope that one day we can all be as open with men as we are with women so that they don’t have to hide.