Is your Judy ‘Cat Blocking’ your Game?

What woman under the age of 35 hasn’t fallen in love with her favorite gay man, or judy, who will avidly pump up her outfits, her hair, her nails, and even her promotion at work? Who doesn’t live for a ‘Yasss honey’ or a ‘YES MA’AM!’ yelled across the room here and there? Today’s gay man serves as the emotional backing a woman is missing in her heterosexual relationship. The little details that go unnoticed so often by the straight male specimen gives a delightful rush to her ‘judy’ and fulfills what she is missing at home without the sexual desires (sometime, but that’s another subject matter) or commitment. Although you may love heading out to tear it down with your gay best friend, have you ever stopped to think, “Is he the reason I haven’t found my baller?”

Homosexuality is a hard concept for many straight men to easily wrap their hands around (no pun intended.) Although homosexuality is older than the Internet, slavery, and possibly Jesus, it has managed to remain shrouded in mystery. The sports world is known to be harsh on the acceptance of the LGBT community, especially in recent news, and your love of judies near and far can place a damper on your ‘ballerific’ dreams!

Ignorance spans across the board, but may be more prevalent when dealing with this topic, so I’ll try to make it plain and simple… Imagine this: You’re walking with your girls and you see a fine brother who you already know all about… Your baller! He’s peeping you and your girls, but your judy is over-the-top and ready to be seen. This houses the potential for what I like to call a ‘cat block’ on so many levels as it may make him too uncomfortable, or even distracted, to approach you and whisk you off of your feet! Maybe, in some cases, the judy is rather masculine and is often mistaken as your boo thang! NOT GOOD! Many men are fretful of women with too many male friends as is (although this may become a horrible double standard) and don’t want to accept the fact at first sight you just may come with an entire Pride Parade of friends. The initial contact between you and a guy you’re looking to date should be a setting in which you both feel comfortable!

I’m not saying you should always exclude your judies from the festivities the weekend brings at all, but when you know what your motive for attending that All-Star Game after party is…. Well, you get the idea.

What is your opinion of gay men on the straight scene when so much is on the line of scrimmage?

~Kris Welcome