Ladies, Do You Believe What He Tells You or What You “Think”?

Voyaging into uncharted waters when you first begin to date someone is quite scary. You’re just getting to know the person and everything they say or do is under a microscope. If you are coming off of a bad relationship, chances are getting into a new one is even tougher. You’re twice as guarded and afraid to trust again. In a scenario where you are in the beginning stages of dating a guy, do you tend to believe the things he tells you or what your mind is telling you? Allow me to further explain. 

Let’s say that you just met a great guy. He’s very attentive to you and everything seems to be going well between you two. He confides in you that he is a father of a young child, less than 2 years old, and is currently living with his baby’s mother. He assures you that although he does live in the home, he and his ex are not sleeping together and that he wants to continue to date you.

On one hand, the guy hasn’t given you any reason not to trust him yet. He’s with you as much as he possibly can be throughout the day and night. You haven’t had to deal with his baby mama in any way so why would you believe they are still messing around?

On the other hand, having a child that is less than two years old proves the ending of the relationship, if it ever ended, is still very fresh. Your past experiences tell you that people reconcile every day and if he was really trying to move on, he would move out. As far as you know, you have no clue if he’s still sleeping with her. You could possibly be the “other woman” and not even know it. 

So who do you honestly believe? Your suspicions or what your man has told you. In a situation like this do you confront him about why he hasn’t moved out or just wait until he has given you a reason to think something fishy is going on.

If you are the type to believe what you think, yet take the chance to not follow your gut, you’ll probably end up driving yourself crazy over it. Any time he doesn’t call or show up at a specific time, you’ll think it’s because he’s with “her”. You’ll probably think he’s still messing around with his ex whether he is or not.  If you do believe what he tells you, but under the influence of bad decisions decide to leave because you were convinced that too many things are not adding up, you could be missing out on a great guy. What would you do?