Let’s Talk: Does Your Best Friend Know Every Detail of Your Relationship?

In life, everyone deserves that one person that they can confide in and count on. We all need someone that will support us and love us despite our faults, that one person that isn’t blood, but is part of the family. Everyone deserves someone that they can call their best friend.

Back in the day, we all had so many friends. But, as we grew older, the word began to hold a little more weight in our lives and before you know it, our big group of friends turned into a small clique. As time passed, our small clique turned into two and a possible. With time and experiences, we realize that everyone does not deserve the title of a friend. But, if you’ve been fortunate enough to build a bond with someone who is loyal, trustworthy and TTG (trained-to-go), you’ve got yourself a bestie.

When you’ve been blessed with a best friend, that isn’t your significant other, you’re inclined to tell them everything. From your family issues to your own personal issues, your best friend is usually the person that you entrust with your deepest darkest secrets. But, when it comes to your relationship, things can get a little tricky.

I’m sure there have been times when you have divulged details of your relationship to your best friend and in turn received feedback on how to react without jumping off the deep end. But, I’m also sure there have been other times when you’ve kept certain details to yourself. Not because your best friend would judge you, but because you know he/she wouldn’t approve. Think of it like this, if you choose to withhold information about your relationship from your family for fear of how they will react, considering the said information is bad, then you should keep it from your best friend as well. The chances of you going on double dates and couple kickbacks with your best friend and their boo slim down when you include your bestie in all of your “relationSH*T” drama.

At the end of the day, your best friend wants the best for you and if in that moment, you are not with the best, then the details of that relationship should be withheld. But, if you’re like me, and you have a best friend that will tell you when you’re being dumb, then you should probably listen to what he/she is trying to tell you.

Now, none of this matters if you don’t have real friends in your circle, no fake friends. If you have a “best friend” that is always negative about every situation you’re in, that isn’t your best friend. If you have a “best friend” that will talk about you to the opposition, that isn’t your bestie. If you have a “best friend” that will betray you if ish hit the fan, then, you guessed it, that isn’t your best friend. So, before you go telling your business to these random people, who claim to care about you, sort out the fakes and the phonies and find you a real one.