The loss of one’s virginity isn’t quite the topic that many prefer to discuss. But I recently saw a conversation on Twitter, where people were discussing whether or not a person has lost their virginity under certain circumstances. I couldn’t believe some of the comments and that is when I realized that everyone doesn’t have the same interpretation of what it really means for a woman to lose her virginity.
Growing up, many of us lost our virginity while in high school. It was always put out there that if a girl bleeds during sex, her “cherry” was popped and no longer a virgin. The reality, however, is that the state of your hymen has nothing to do with your sexual activity. As for how to know if your hymen is broken, it’s nearly impossible to see it for yourself.
The hymen is a small, ragged membrane just inside the opening to the vagina. All hymens are not created equally. So many things other than intercourse can wear the hymen away, including horseback riding, biking, gymnastics, using tampons, fingering, and masturbation. Some women are even born without hymens.
Now if a penis enters the vagina whether the hymen was broken or not, the woman has definitely lost her virginity. But the question many are asking is, “Would you include other sexual activities in the same category as sex?”
One girl stated that her best friend only has anal sex because she’s saving herself for a husband. Is anal sex not sex?
Others began to chime in, claiming some women prefer anal and oral sex versus having sex vaginally. They feel that having sex vaginally is for your husband only. Sounds a bit backwards because why wouldn’t you want to save your mouth for your husband?
In my opinion, I wouldn’t put oral sex in the same category as losing one’s virginity although it is considered sex. As far as anal sex, I would consider that as a loss of virginity no matter how you look at it.
Would you consider anal or oral sex as a form of losing one’s virginity?
