Let’s Talk: Should You Date Someone With a Kid in Your 20s?

– blogged by @baetoven_

When you’re single, you don’t necessarily set out to date someone with children, especially as a young adult. But what if you’ve found the perfect person who just so happens to have a kid? Here are a few tips that can help you decide if you’re ready to date them.

The first thing you should know is that kids require a certain level of responsibility, so a benefit of dating someone with kids is that they tend to be more mature than others. And if they’re dating you, they’re probably looking for something more serious and stable. But kids also require attention and they come first (no matter what) so consider the fact that you might have limited time with your partner, and understand that spur of the moment activities may be off limits. As an alternative, plan them out in advance.

Their ex is also going to be in the picture, so keep your jealousy in order. You’ll have to get used to seeing a reminder of the relationship that once was, and you’ll have to get over it. Your attitude is everything, especially if you want to be a part of the child’s life. But also take into consideration that, in some cases, people who have children together may still be involved with each other and keep your eyes open.

It’s also important to set boundaries. If you don’t feel comfortable doing certain things for their child, speak up. You don’t want to have regrets later in life, so make sure you’re communicating and finding out what their expectations are as far as your role with their kid.

On the flip-side, dating someone with kids gives you a reason to see as many kid movies as you want, you won’t have to worry about disciplining them and, to be frank, being around other people’s children can be the best birth control. Just remember that patience is key. You might end up having a new best friend.