Let’s Talk: How Long Would You Date Someone Before Becoming Exclusive?

Dating can be a struggle for some, especially after being in a relationship for an extended period of time. You go from being with someone all the time and practically knowing everything about them to starting the process all over again. 

Starting over can become hectic when trying to figure out their likes and dislikes or even trying to decide whether or not they really want to be in a monogamous relationship at the moment. 

Let’s say you meet someone and the connection is there right away. The two of you begin going out on dates, hanging out, talking or texting all the time, and just spending a lot of time together. In her eyes, the two of you are doing everything a couple does but without a title. So he/she comes to you and asks about where the two of you stand, but your response isn’t what they are looking for. They were hoping for commitment, but you hit them with the “I’m not ready.”

So now, the ultimate question that comes to mind is, “How Long Would You Date Someone Before Becoming Exclusive?” 

Many of us have heard about Ronnie and Shamari DeVoes relationship and how she waited almost three years just to be a girlfriend. Three years is a long time to just be with someone unofficially. How can you do everything that a couple does but don’t want to commit to just them? So is it okay for them to see other people since you aren’t ready? Like, how does this work?

A man could have everything he wants in a woman right in front of him but still won’t commit. Now, what will end up happening is, the other person will get sick and tired of the fake relationship role and end up finding someone else. Then, all of a sudden, they are ready to commit. But are they really ready to commit?

Commitment may be a title for some, but to others, it’s more than that.

The last thing you want to do is play the role like you’re in a relationship, and five to ten years pass and you’re still in the same predicament. 

This is a conversation to have with your potential significant other before you get serious to ensure that the both of you are on the same page and not wasting one another’s time. You don’t want to waste a lot of time and energy only to find out they never want to get married, have kids, etc. 

What’s the longest you have waited to be someone’s significant other?