Loni Love says Black men struggle with being in faithful relationships because of the conditioning effects of slavery.⠀⠀
“The Real” hosts were discussing #JoeBudden’s recent comments on #KevinHart’s new, personal Netflix documentary, “Kevin Hart: Don’t F**k This Up” in their latest Girl Chat. Budden shared that he understood why Hart cheated, saying Hart’s work ethic led him to infidelity. “He works really hard. I can work harder. Like, I can see how n*ggas cheat,” he said during an episode of his “The Joe Budden Podcast,” which was posted on Thursday.
“In thinking about how hard he works, sometimes you’re not home but for 10 seconds in the day, for however many days, and I as a man can understand how that can be difficult. I know how I was feeling just going to work; however, many hours I was going to work and spending very little time at home.”
However, Love felt Budden’s words and Hart’s actions to be the result of the hardships Black men faced during slavery. She claimed that once Black men reach a certain level of success and power, they feel they can treat women in any way they feel, including being unfaithful. “I don’t speak for the Black community, but I do think that a lot of Black men, they really don’t know how to have true, faithful relationships,” Love said. “They think because they have money, they have power, that they can treat women any kind of way.”
Adrienne Bailon chimed in and said infidelity is something all races are capable of committing. “I think sadly, in so many cultures, that is the whole machismo thing. That goes across the board,” Adrienne said. Love replied that she feels cheating isn’t an all-across-the-board issue. “No, it’s not across the board because what is happening is that we are still dealing with the point of slavery,” Loni continued. “And we are descendants of slavery, and because our families were broken up, we still do not have an idea of how to have togetherness because our families were broken up.”
The program’s newest host, #AmandaSeales, supported Love’s views by saying infidelity within the Black male community also stems from welfare reform in the 1960s and ’70s. While there are many people who may agree with Love, several people shared that they felt Love’s comments were ignorant, discriminatory, and flat-out wrong. People also mentioned her having a white boyfriend and speaking on Black men is problematic. “@ Loni Love next time use your platform TO UPLIFT BLACK MEN not bash them. They go through enough already being black men. Its ppl like you who give us REAL sistas a bad name. Cause you got a Chad, you think you made it. You should see how you look, Mammie,” a Twitter user wrote.