Looking For Love Is A Set Up For Disappointment

I’m 26 years old and I run across this with my peers. It inspired me to write this blog. The topic: Looking For Love. So many women in my age range are at a point where they feel that  because they are single that they are lonely. They feel they should have been married by 25. Apparently their biological clocks stopped ticking somewhere around 21. Relationship-wise we’re growing up a lot faster than we should have to. 

This is the question I pose to these women in my age range: What’s the rush? What is it that makes us think that it’s time to get wifed up and settle down all of a sudden.  24, 25, 26 years old is far too early for our biological clock to be ticking. There is nothing more annoying to me than a woman who constantly talks about how she needs a man, she wants to be booed up and she’s ready to get married….yet she’s merely in her 20’s and hasn’t even begun a career. You still have plenty to do in life and for some reason a man comes before all of that? Funny, you will hardly ever hear a man want these same things. He’s usually not concerned with marriage or relationships until he’s established himself first. In this case men have the right way of thinking. 

Imagine how many blessings you’re blocking when your head is so far up in the notion of simply having someone to cuddle with? If it’s sex you need, do you realize how many penises are wide and willing for the taking? The women who holler the loudest about needing a man and wanting to be in a relationship badly are usually the ones who find themselves in the worst relationships. They find themselves with men who look good but treat them badly. The reason that is is because they wanted it so badly that they let their standards down. They’re caught up in the fairy tale that they lose sight of reality. A woman who chases love will always find herself on the tail end of it. If you’re dying to get married by 25, you’ll probably be divorced by 28. 

You want to be the woman who doesn’t chase love, but allows love to find her. Love will happen when it happens. Don’t be afraid to take a few years to take care of YOU first. Buy a house, jump start your career, travel the world. Do all of the things that life has given you the opportunity to do and count each blessing that you’re alive and breathing. Being single doesn’t mean that you’re lonely and being in a relationship doesn’t mean that you’re happy. You can be in a relationship and be lonely, and single and happy. Take some time for you! In return, the time you spend on yourself will attract a good quality man that is worth your time. Don’t rush love, it’ll happen. When you rush it you end up settling for anything that comes your way. Chances are when you’re spending time with Mr. Wrong, Mr. Wright is passing you by. Meanwhile you’re scaring Mr. EveryoneElse with your crazy psycho “I need to be in love” complaints so stop the madness!

– Sincerely Yours, 

Me.