Ludacris’ Baby Mama Tamika Fuller Tells Her Side Of The Story, Says Luda Begged For An Abortion

Ludacris has a one year old daughter and after a brief battle in court he’s been awarded full custody. For the first time, we’re hearing about the entire ordeal straight from Tamika’s mouth, as she tells her story to MadameNoire. Here are some interesting things we learned from the interview, which you can read in its entirety HERE.

Tamika Wasn’t Some Groupie. She’s Known Ludacris For A Long Time

“When I found out that I was pregnant two years ago, I immediately told Chris. The world knows him as an internationally famous Hip Hop artist and actor (Ludacris) but, despite the hurtful things that have been said about me, that’s not why I was attracted to him. We had been good friends for many years, and when he told me he was newly single in spring 2013 we became intimate. Things took an ugly turn, however, when I found myself unexpectedly throwing up in his bathroom, and ultimately learning that I was pregnant.

I am fully aware that people often assume an average woman who gets herself impregnated by a celebrity is a gold-digger looking for a quick and easy payday. However contrary to popular belief, I was fully cognizant that I was going to be a single mother and I knew that he was not going to be involved in that process – I was okay with that. I went through my entire pregnancy alone and working full time with no support from him, most of the people in my circle never even knew he was the father until our trial made headlines.”

Ludacris Begged For An Abortion

“The psychological manipulation began immediately. He broke down into tears when I told him that I wanted to keep our baby and he begged me to abort the child whose heartbeat was developing in rhythm with my own. He told me that it would destroy his career and his image. I contemplated heavily on terminating my pregnancy. I don’t believe in enforced parenthood or trapping anyone into raising an unwanted child. However when I visited the clinic and heard my daughter’s heartbeat on the ultrasound I knew I couldn’t go through with it.

He promised me the world – trips on his private jet and other perks of the rich and famous -if I would just have the abortion. Perhaps, more importantly, he made me feel as if I was ruining us. It was as if he believed that our friendship should take precedence over the life growing inside of me and when he realized that it didn’t, it couldn’t, my real nightmare began.”

Tamika Feels She Lost Her Child When She Went Up Against A Celebrity

“Unfortunately, my custody situation with my daughter’s wealthy and powerful father, and the court system that loves him, is not unique. Tameka Raymond had to go through it with her famous ex-husband and father of two of her children, R&B singer Usher Raymond. Royce Reed had to go through it with her child’s father, NBA player Dwight Howard. Pilar Sanders was stripped of custody of her three children in favor of her ex-husband, NFL legend Dion Sanders.

There is definitely a favoritism that is shown to wealthy, male celebrities. If they even pretend to act like they care, even if evidence clearly shows otherwise, they are rewarded. Their lies are excused and their past mistakes are viewed as growth, while mistakes made by “regular” women many years ago are weapons used against them.

Norma Mitchell, ex-wife of an R&B singer, has been locked in legal disputes with him over the custody arrangement for their daughter and something she said recently really resonated with me: “A lot of men with money and more power, especially with passive women, are using the legal system to abuse these women. Then they can point the finger and say, ‘Look at her, she’s crazy,’ because one day you just explode and can’t take it anymore.”

I feel that’s exactly what happened to me. He used the legal system as revenge, to spite me. This was a man who never visited our daughter, nor called to inquire about her well being, or even sent her a gift until the court battle began. You want me to believe a man that turned down an invitation to witness the birth of our daughter has unexpectedly developed such deep-rooted paternal feelings that he feels compelled to take her out of my arms at night for 20 days out of the month. Even more callous, he knows I cry myself to sleep without her in my bed at night, the pain of her absence is overwhelming. I try to call just to hear her voice but he directs my calls to voicemail. He warned me that he knew himself and that he would resent me for not having the abortion, and that’s exactly what I saw in that courtroom. I didn’t see a man who loved his child so much that he wanted custody. I saw a man who hated that child’s mother so much he would take custody away from her.“