Make up? What to do?

It’s been a couple of days- sorry- this MOB*Star Lady has been BUSY!! Life has been getting in the way of my writing lately- damn! While I’ve been running and going and doing and all of this and that, I have sort of Maybe been neglecting the old dude lately. He hasn’t really complained about it, but I’ve noticed it, so I started thinking, and was talking to girlfriends about me being an ass and neglecting him, not meaning to but still, etc etc. So the conversation took a turn- and next thing I know they’re talking about things they do/ have done to KEEP their men after they’ve basically F’d up Royally. Some I could go with, like the making of a nice “I’m sorry dinner” or whatever, but some things made me really, Really question who the hell these girls were and where the hell were MY friends?? SO lovelies, let me turn it over to you- what exactly do YOU do to KEEP your man?? Let me make this clear, not to be mistaken with the usual this or that you do to show appreciation, or congratulations, or admiration, none of that. I’m talking you F’d UP, and need to make it right, what is appropriate? I personally anything that is his Favorite should be good, but some ladies feel differently. Some ladies feel that if HE had F’d up, HE wouldn’t go to too much trouble to KEEP you, so why would YOU do all of this? I see the logic there, but that answer is simple ladies- we are superior beings, and therefore able to digest emotion on a different level, and admit to any wrong doing, at least that’s the story we’ll go with : )

For the sake of the argument, let’s say an ex texts you and you respond…. You engage. Knowing you are in a serious relationship with someone else, you know your ass has zero reason to talk to this jackass of an ex- but for some unknown freaking reason, it’s too tempting and you just do it. Being a man, with a man’s ego the ex will, of course, try and say things to remind you of old sexual times between the two of you, and even if all you text back is “LOL” you have now stepped off the ledge and into the fire my friend and now you have entered the zone of asshole! Dating someone while entertaining your ex’s trip down a sexual memory lane….. Never ok, but we are all guilty of it- all of us. So what happens? Of course we all know what happens- your current dude finds the texts!! It’s not bad enough he finds out you’re communicating with an ex, but inevitably he picks up your phone and reads ALL of the texts. Making dinner may not be enough here girls.

Again I ask, what do we do? Dinner? Really kinky night? What can we do to make that up to him? As you sit here and read this you may be really considering, shit, what would I do? Let me throw a curve ball question here, because you KNOW I’m all about the empowered woman here, and to me fair is fair, right is right and wrong is wrong. #1 yes you were an ass for taking that trip down any kind of memory lane with any ex while you’re currently serious with another man- ok now that that’s out of the way, ladies… had your man done the exact same shit with an ex-girlfriend, What the Fuck would HIS ass do to KEEP YOUR ASS??? My experience has been when the guy F’s up he acts like it’s no big deal… the good ones either DON’T engage in that shit with their exes, OR they DO make it up 10 fold, I’m talking flowers, small gifts, endless apologies etc. those guys are very few and far between. Why are things so damn different from our side to theirs? We engage in that convo with an ex and we are the Hoe- he engages and guess what his ex is the Hoe!!!! WTF is that ladies? And we allow that, which is crazy to me! Think on that, please. How is his ex the hoe in that situation? She’s single, he’s with you. The 2 of them are texting each other- both talking about the good old times, yes she knows he’s with you- but point is HES with you- she’s SINGLE, who’s the real hoe here? We go above and beyond daily and are expected to bump it up that much more when we F up- what about these boys? I’m all about loving each other and being equally respectful but unfortunately it never goes that way. The scales always tip in the guy’s favor- and WE always end up trying to scramble to keep him happy, and we forget about us. We can’t do that ladies. We are worth way more. I can’t tell you what to expect from your man, or your specific relationship, I just can’t, I don’t know all of you that well. I can tell you what I think, and that is what I do best – I think that it’s time we start to respect ourselves enough to expect that when our boys F up- we Expect them to Respect us enough to #1 make it up to us, in some kind of way that shows they care, and #2 Shows they won’t, or have no intentions on doing whatever stupid shit it was in the 1^st place that got them in the dog house.

Ladies, know this, what you accept will ultimately end up being what you regret. If you accept his no calling you  back all night and secretive texts NOW, you can’t expect that in a year it’ll be different and in that year you’ll still be miserable and you’ll regret that you ever let this shit take place. Therefore proving what I just said- please remember:

WHAT YOU ACCEPT YOU WILL ULTIMATELY REGRET- SO GET THAT SHIT STRAIGHT NOW!

You don’t need to be waiting on anyone hand and foot even if you do F up. Say your apologies, do something special and keep it moving. As always – keep it sassy and classy ladies!!