My Baller just Bought Me a Gift: To Accept or Deny?

Considering that it is the holiday season, there is no better time to discuss one of the major challenges that women who are dating ballers face on a daily basis: to accept or deny gifts. In all seriousness, who would actually turn down a gift from someone that they’re dating!?! However, when dating a Baller, the rules are slightly different, considering that they’re not shopping at your local Bath & Body Works or Aldo. Women of such status have to be more self-conscious of what it is they’re taking and who it is they’re taking it from. Why? Well, there’s a misconception that women who date Ballers are somehow, someway, a groupie, and that is something that is sure to spread and damage one’s reputation, potentially even the relationship itself.

Think about how many times you’ve witnessed the girlfriend/fiancée of a Baller being accused as a “gold digger” or “groupie” on social media all because she accepted a gift (whether it be a vacation, clothes, handbags, etc.) from HER man. Isn’t Kevin Hart’s fiancee, Eniko, always having to defend herself against fans for being labeled as the preceding only because she posts images from lavish vacations that her oh so very famous beau treats her to? Even if the relationship happens to end, some ballers will use what it is that their girl took from them as ammo to degrade their image, so denial hypothetically seems to be a safer route.

Regardless of how much her man is worth or how much he has in the bank, there’s always hesitation when presented with a new pair of shoes, courtesy of Christian Louboutin, or the BCBG sequined top you’ve had your eye on the past week. You don’t want to give him any reason to suspect that you’re with him for motives other than your true feelings of love and appreciation, yet, at the same time, continuously turning down his offerings is a blow to his ego.

Part of the reason why Ballers offer their lady (or ladies) such luxurious gifts is because the average man cannot afford to do so. In his mind, if he gives her the best, she will have no desire to depart and seek elsewhere. At the end of the day, your man is ultimately trying to make you happy by buying something special for you. It is not intended to be an act of malice only to be used against you if the relationship goes downhill, so take the gift(s). Just be mindful that when you begin to publicly display your new entities that you’re opening the door up to a realm full of criticism and assumptions from fans, family, and his friends.

Just remember, if they were in your shoes, they wouldn’t hesitate at all!