“It’s Not Me, It’s You”: Are Women Incapable of Taking Responsibility For A Failed Relationship?

blogged by @peachkyss and @msjennyb

There has been a meme floating around stating “Never heard a female say ‘I had a good n*gga but I f*cked up.” Of course, my first reaction was “What f*ckboy wrote this foolishness?”


It’s not that women are incapable of acknowledging their wrongdoing, at times we don’t realize that we are doing anything wrong. Then on the other hand, we have some situations that we prefer to keep to ourselves because we know that men can’t handle a woman’s truth. I believe we, as women, can be very honest if we were to do something wrong but because men think everything we do is from an emotional state, we know they wouldn’t be able to handle it and some times vice versa. 


As a woman, it’s easy to shift the blame or pass the buck in a relationship, especially if you’ve been hurt before. Many women use relationships to heal, under the pretense that “the best way to get over a bad breakup is to get under someone else.” As a result, they tend to channel the hurt they felt in their previous relationship and funnel it into their new relationship, ruining it before it even began.


But, still, when she reflects on the relationship with her friends, the mantra remains, “N*ggas ain’t shit.” ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

Why is that? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

The answer is simple. Regardless of whether or not a woman pushes a “good man” away or ruins a relationship over her own insecurities, there will always be that one man that made her that way. The woman that was once a bundle of joy or a breath of fresh air, is now an angry, bitter Betty, who hates the woman she’s become. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

So, how does this woman heal her heart? Love herself, first. When you realize your worth, you’ll be able to choose wisely when it comes to the men you date. You’ll only gravitate toward the men that are worthy of your presence, that won’t take your love for granted. Although things may not always work out, you have an easier time separating yourself from someone you once loved because you have the love within yourself to sustain you.


In the meantime, take what you’ve learned from your previous relationship and apply it to the next. All relationships aren’t the same and if we go in with a different mindset, we will come out with a different ending. 

About Peachkyss

Peachkyss is the Fashion Writer and Content Curator for Baller Alert, who keeps the reader up-to-date on the latest trends, the latest luxury brand collections, and how to "ball" on a budget.  Peachkyss has her Bachelors in Elementary Education with a concentration in Mathematics from Norfolk State University and Masters in Middle Grades Mathematics from Walden University.  Have a question about what your favorite celeb is wearing or fashion advice, email me at [email protected] "Style is a way to say who you are without having to speak."

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  1. Oh the irony… “Regardless of whether or not a woman pushes a “good man” away or ruins a relationship over her own insecurities, there will always be that one man that made her that way”. That there is exactly what it means to not take responsibility for your relationship (i.e. It’s someone else’s fault that you behave as you do, or in other words, not taking bloody responsibility for yourself). Thank you for proving the point that you were opposing

  2. this article is such a load of bullshit lmao, and i’d expect nothing less from a female. Women not revealing themselves truly has nothing to do with if men can or can’t handle the truth, because we’re tough, we definitely can handle it, it may sting but we definitely can handle it. Women don’t reveal their truths to men because they have to protect their own reputation. Women don’t care about men feelings, but women do care about how they are perceived.

    And multiple times throughout the article, you’re just blaming men. The article is titled “Are Women Incapable of Taking Responsibility For A Failed Relationship?” The answer to that is yes.

    The “one” man who hurt you is the ideal guy who pumped and dumped you while you probably were fucking over other good men in the process. It’s not any man’s fault in the future that you chose a man who you knew could “hurt” you. (Love yourself first), Bitch that’s what you were already doing in the first place.

    • This entire article is so revealing. Women run this relationship thing. It’s honestly shocking to see an explanation for women ‘taking responsibility’ meanwhile saying that men are the problem.

  3. Hahaha why am I not surprised..a woman being manipulating and blaming me foe everything. Pathetic

  4. In other words…NO

  5. A very long way of saying “yes, women are incapable of taking any responsibility. I do agree with the point, though, that men are responsible for what women have become: too many years of treating them like princesses has turned them into hyper-entitled sub-humans. Like our author, here.

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