Proper Homeboy Etiquette Whether He’s Smashing Or Not

This topic came to mind earlier this morning when I was thinking back at my male friends and the way they act when we go out in public, whether they’re my man or not. I’ve noticed that some men don’t know proper etiquette when going out with a female so I figured I’d take it upon myself to educate them.

First let’s begin with what I mean by “going out”. There are unwritten rules when going to the club, out to eat, the movies etc with male friends. Just because he hasn’t gotten what’s between your legs does not excuse him from doing what all men are simply just supposed to do. Beware of any man who debates or refuses this. Chances are he ain’t sh** anyway.

When going out to eat, the man has to pay or at the very least offer. I am all for going dutch. If we’re friends, I don’t mind paying for my own meal. Hell, I’ll even pay for both of our meals but that does not excuse a man from at least offering. This also goes for if we go out to a bar. If a man is in the presence of women, he’s got to at least by a round of drinks. This is just part of the unwritten law of being a man.

When at the club, a man should protect his female friends. That includes holding her hand to navigate the crowds, making sure she exits the club safely and being her balance when she’s walking down stairs in heels. This is not debatable. I actually had a male friend walk out of the club before me, not offering to help make sure I made it out the club, and do you know what I did — left him at the club. I don’t care if you’re trying to take some ass home tonight, you make sure the females you came with are taken care of at all times, then you cater to the hoochies you are trying to smash.

Men shall not gossip. That’s obvious. I don’t care who says what about your female friends, you do not gossip about her. This should go without saying but you’d be surprised how many men love to flap their gums like a bunch of old women at a hair salon. There’s nothing worse than a bunch of men sitting up discussing a female. Any male friend of mine who partakes in such activities is no longer a male friend of mine.

Lastly, don’t ditch your homegirls for the new girl. Everyday men get into relationships with insecure women who want them to cut off every other woman in his life. A good man will put his foot down and reassure his new girl that she has nothing to worry about, but his female friend stays. I’ve even known some guys who completely throw their friends to the left over a new relationship and it’s not even at the request of his girlfriend. If you can’t make your girlfriend confident about your girl friends, you need to re-evaluate the entire relationship.

So what are some other rules that you have for your boys, regardless of whether they’re hitting it or not?