Should you get a pass if you have a sexual past?

“How many guys have you been with?” asked Mark.

I looked at the phone as if I was talking to a man that was born in 1950’s rather than the 1980’s. I didn’t answer because I felt that it was completely inappropriate to even ask this question so early in the game.  If I responded, would the number indicate that I’m more or less loyal in a relationship?  Do people really keep count of how many sexual partners they’ve had after a certain age?  I started to think that if I lost my virginity at 18, then how many partners are reasonable to have by the time I reach 30?  I mean, who has time to analyze things like this and what does it prove?

People will judge you off of shallow shit these days like the number of sexual partners you’ve had like it really matters.

“Should I take it to my grave or pray that he’s mature enough to handle the truth,” I pondered. Of course I gave him some random number off the top of my head because it’s so irrelevant to me. Some men are so insecure that they start comparing themselves to people who are no longer in the picture.  It’s not like they can take the “D” for you so it shouldn’t be important to them.

Ladies you do not have to share every little detail of your sexual life with them nor be ashamed of your colorful past.   We all have a right to explore our sexuality at one point or another and a real man will be able to understand, respect, and overlook it all.

When dating or pursuing a relationship with someone of interest, the process of elimination seems to always focus on your PAST.  We all have one, but some people are quick to forget that when they’re not the one being judged at the moment.

For one, let’s be honest and state that these cities are too small to think you’re going to find something untouched or unaffiliated with someone that you know.  Have an open mind and remember that you’re not dealing with a damn genie.    People are not living their life based off who might show up in their future because life just doesn’t work like that. Best thing to do is to tell the person what they need to know before an informant does. We all know those nosy ass people who are waiting to find out who’s talking to whom so they can spill the tea on where they’ve been and who they’ve been sleeping with.

The truth is that so many people worry about the wrong things.  Your past cannot be erased and some people will never forget what you did, but you got to keep living your life.  If you like a person then you like them. Who cares who h/she had sex with before you came in the picture?  Try working on staying in the picture and not worry about things that are out of your control.   As long as it’s not your immediate circle, family, or friends, then live your life.   You can’t do anything about a person’s past but try your best to make their present and future better.

My pet peeve is when a woman throws salt or man throws dirt on your name for something you did umpteen years ago.  Stop holding on to old skeletons and let these folks experience life and be happy. Most people are still trying to find themselves between the ages of 17-25 so they can’t always be held accountable for mistakes or decisions that they mad when they were younger and dumber but some people will never let you forget certain things.