Should Your Friends Really Be Involved?

Now ladies we know how we are when we find a new man, we become so head over hills in love that we just got to share our good news with everyone especially our girls. We love to go into detail but how great of a man he his, what type of job he has, and  how good the sex is! But honestly is this a good thing to share so much information with our friends, especially with a guy we just started dating.

We as women, well most women, tend to get our friends invested in our partners as soon as there is title placed. It’s like we need the gratification that yes we picked a good one and everyone loves him. Once we see that our girls and our guy are getting along we just embrace in happiness, not fully understanding that this can be detrimental in some ways. If the relationship is fairly new it can cause a lot of strain to have our friends imposing on your love life, and the only reason they feel that they can intrude is because we give them so much information they’re basically in the relationship too. Also what if you and your man have a fallout and part ways, then now you’ll start to see who has loyalty for you and which friends decide to choose sides. This can get very ugly, because who you thought were friends can all of sudden become best friends with your so called man.

Now I’m not saying we as women should not interact with our girls about what is going on with our bae, but we should be mindful in all that we share and who we share it with because we don’t really know someone’s true intentions. I know from experience I would share things that I know I shouldn’t have, had all my girls invested in my new relationship and when things turned bad I saw friends take his side, and leave me in the dust. So I’ve learned that when it comes to relationships I need to keep some details to myself. And when it comes to my new relationship, I have to be secured in it before I start having friends invested. So just like Ginuwine said “Aint none of your friends business” we got to keep most things private.