Stop It! You’re Doing The Most For Attention!

Every weekend some of the hottest celebrities are hosting major events at the best clubs with the best promoters. Regardless if you’re in Atlanta or Chicago, Miami or Houston, Charlotte or Philly, there’s bound to be a Baller, whether male or female, scheduled to bring the whole city out. It’s common knowledge that Ballers attract various types of people to their events, including wannabe rappers/models, media correspondents, male and female groupies, and many others. It’s also known that there will be people in attendance who will be doing EVERYTHING possible to attract the attention of someone they believe is in a position to “elevate their status.” I see it all the time, men and women doing the most to catch the eyes of promoters, Ballers, the DJ, and more. Matter of fact, just last weekend when I was with a DJ while he was working, there was one female in particular who came to his booth at least 20 times, hollered his name at least 100, and danced in front of him for what felt like an eternity, hoping to spark his interest. Unfortunately for her, he appeared unmoved, but it made me ask myself, “Where are this girl’s friends?” It’s pretty clear that she is unaware of how ridiculous she is portraying herself to be and they should be around to snap her back into reality! That’s what friends do! Ladies, it’s time that we stop letting our friends intentionally display their groupie-like behavior! Even if she is a groupie, don’t let her BLATANTLY act like one! I know you’re thinking, “She’s grown. I shouldn’t have to remind her to act with class regardless of her true intentions.” I agree, but at the same time, there’s a saying that goes, “birds of a feather flock together,” and whether you believe it or not, people tend to “judge” you based off who you associate with. If your friend is acting like a groupie (regardless if she’s one or not) then she, as well as yourself, will be classified as one. You don’t care what people think? Hmm…OK. That’s perfectly fine, but you can’t deny that perception and impressions are imperative in a world that is dominated by “image.” Let’s be realistic. At the end of the day, the situation itself is embarrassing. She’s embarrassing (at least for the moment). I personally wouldn’t want to be embarrassed in a public setting, let alone one that includes Ballers that could potentially use you as the subject of their next song or article like this one.

Don’t be afraid to keep it real. If it was the other way around, you would want someone to tell you if you’re making a fool of yourself. The way you approach the situation is imperative. Here are several intervention tactics in chronological order:

1. Relocate. You know who her focus is and there’s a 99.9% chance y’all are in close proximity. Your friend has probably already been spotted since she’s acting obnoxiously. Remove her from the area, so that she’s no longer the center of negative attention or the topic of conversation.

2. Bathroom break. If you’re a female who’s ever been to the bathroom in the club, you know it’s not a place where females actually use the bathroom in the club. It’s a place that has evolved into a vanity, photo booth, medicinal clinic, in addition to a counselor’s office. The bathroom is the perfect place for you to explain her behavior and offer suggestions. I can guarantee that some females will cite their advice or observations as well if they’re listening in or witnessed her actions. You could also lock her in the stall and head back to the dance floor without her. Just kidding. Just kidding.

3. Exit the building. If you implemented the preceding iniatives and they both were ineffective then you have two options, exit the building with her, or without her. If you want to leave her, be considerate enough to make sure she is in a condition that is suitable for her to be left solo. Make sure she has a way home too. If both can be checked off then leave her a**.

If you think I’m being too harsh then you probably haven’t witnessed some of the nation’s most desperate women in action. If you do however decide that you want to go out with your friend again then make sure that you have a conversation with her prior to linking up, so you won’t have to deal with her BS again!